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    xDylanx2000
    xDylanx2000
    Participant
    October 29, 2017 at 3:29 pm #154395
    Looking For Advice

    Hello, I recently started to text a guy which I met on Tinder. He liked me first and as soon as I liked him back we matched. It started off well straight well and we moved off tinder to snap chatting just general chit-chat (Hi how are you, what interests you, just generally getting to know one another) then he started not to reply, I have done nothing wrong as my friends have read the chat and they also said he is being rude opening the message and not replying ( P.S I didn’t text him again after) he has been active on social media since and chooses not to reply to my messages, it has been a few days and he still hasn’t replied. It is clear from his previous messages that he indeed is showing interest and this is confusing me(my friends also agree) all I think to myself is is have I done something wrong or is he playing hard to get or is that just him or am I just over thinking the situation. He is a capricorn and i am a Pisces. Could anyone please help me out.

    Thanks Dylan 🙂

    crystalball
    crystalball
    Participant
    November 16, 2017 at 6:12 pm #156716

    No it’s not you….just move on. He’s probably talking to lots of other people and just left your chat. It’s horrible but don’t think about it too deeply. Luckily you didn’t meet him face to face or had something going on long term.

    missmaris
    missmaris
    Participant
    November 16, 2017 at 8:08 pm #156720

    Love,

    Move on. There is nothing wrong with you or anything. He is a guy who has lots of options ( tinder). He most likely is chatting to a number of girls. If he is not answering or reciprocating that is your answer. Don’t take it so personally. You have to understand that when you are on these sites that you are going to have to get through a lot of duds before you hit a winner. You have to expect a bit of ignoring , ghosting and deleting. Play the game.
    Love yourself and the one that wants to talk to you will.

    foreverlove23
    foreverlove23
    Participant
    November 16, 2017 at 8:42 pm #156721

    Better to stop communicating on him, it means he is not interested with you.. glad that you did not meet him already.

    Jokkun
    Jokkun
    Participant
    November 28, 2017 at 7:40 am #157541

    Some guys are finicky about that. I know a lot of people who’ll open a text and not response, myself included. However, that’s generally limited to friends/family members, I DO plan on texting them back at some point, though. However I’ve always been glued to my phone during the honey moon phase of dating and texting right back and forth.

    dangthaidhkt999
    dangthaidhkt999
    Participant
    November 28, 2017 at 9:05 pm #157686

    Love is always the best … hard to understand!

    rmcl12
    rmcl12
    Participant
    March 25, 2018 at 4:28 am #168335

    I just wanted to tell you that you did nothing wrong. people on dating apps aren;t always the best. don’t get hung up on him. your too good for him

    kp
    kp
    Participant
    May 24, 2018 at 10:49 am #175147

    He’s likely already moved on to the next Mr “right now”. Delete or block him and move on.

    Novblues96
    Novblues96
    Participant
    May 24, 2018 at 11:11 am #175152

    It can either be that he’s genuinely busy (you never know, I’m sometimes guilty of this kind of behaviour but it’s always due to overworking and my inbred aloofness) or you’re simply not a priority to him. Unfortunately people lose interest easily and quite quickly, frolicking around. I don’t think you did anything wrong, you’re not at fault here. I’d suggest minding your own business for the next couple of weeks, may be look up other people that interest you and if he reappears, well, get to the bottom of things or just ignore him.

    nic15
    nic15
    Participant
    May 25, 2018 at 7:04 pm #175378
    Reply To: Looking For Advice

    Dylan,

    You haven’t done anything wrong at all! Some guys just do that, they start talking to a ton of new people and it remains a mystery to me how they go about choosing who to continue talking to and who they “let sit”. I use that phrase because this guy hasn’t written you off completely, in fact I would guess that sometime in the future you’ll hear from him again, but it will be when it suits him, which is very disrespectful toward you. I agree with everyone else, move on and forget him! Leave him on your friends list if you want, but I wouldn’t waste another minute worrying about it. Someone a lot smarter than me once told me to stop thinking and worrying about an ex because “do you think right now he’s thinking about you? So why waste your time thinking about him?”. And that’s very true. Just put yourself back out there, don’t let it get you down. I’m not a huge believer in fate, but I do believe that things tend to happen for a reason, clearly you and he just weren’t right.

    ellie
    ellie
    Participant
    May 26, 2018 at 4:04 am #175380
    Reply To: Looking For Advice

    this is just so common. he probably is talking to many other girls and is not into anything serious or any commitment.. just move on

    phantomlady
    phantomlady
    Participant
    May 26, 2018 at 3:01 pm #175388
    Reply To: Looking For Advice

    He could be multidating. If you are looking for something serious, then find another guy.

    anonlover
    anonlover
    Participant
    May 26, 2018 at 4:25 pm #175391
    Reply To: Looking For Advice

    Tinder isnt always the best place to find real seeious love if thats what youre looking for of course