Messed up with my crushes lately…What to do next?

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Messed up with my crushes lately…What to do next?

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    Rey Hysterio
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    December 16, 2019 at 6:43 pm #226653
    Messed up with my crushes lately…What to do next?

    I’ve messed up with two of my crushes lately these past few months. All of them have rejected me, each situation with each one wasn’t ideal as I planned it to be. I never got to directly know either of the girls, all of them found out too early that I liked them, and the first one kindly rejected me, the second one harshly blocked on social media. Since my first crush was kinder, after I got over my second crush, I tried to ‘cure’ the awkwardness between me and my first crush–and instead of reconciliation, its resulted in hate from her. I feel like I keep messing up, and this can give off a bad reputation and possibly ruin my chances with other potential girl friends in my final high school year.

    Given all these mistakes I’ve made with my crushes, what should I do next in terms of my interaction with girls? How do I improve?

    herkamer63
    herkamer63
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    December 17, 2019 at 3:42 pm #226680

    First off, and don’t take any offense to this, you’re high school. Usually girls are not all there anyway at this age and they’re volatile, but if you don’t get a girl in your final year, don’t worry about it. If you’re planning to go to school after high school, women will, typically, be much more chill.

    Second, social media is a BAD place to try and start relationships. In person is THE best to start relationships. If there is a girl you’re interested in, don’t come on too hard. Take your time and don’t rush things. It’ll come naturally and she’ll see you’re being respectful of her space, which will make the potential relationship much better.

    Third, if you’re out of shape, start working out and diet. Women LOVE guys that take care of their body. Slim down if need be, but bulk up just enough. They’ll come.

    Finally, be yourself. Don’t put on a fake persona. That’s why social media is a bad place. There’s too many fakers out there, so don’t follow suit. Have confidence as well.

    Rey Hysterio
    Rey Hysterio
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    December 22, 2019 at 8:38 am #226924

    Thanks that’s really helpful advice!

    Unique1
    Unique1
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    December 30, 2019 at 2:43 am #227057

    I would just let a week go by then talk to the person or people involved but at different times obviously, and communicate with the person respectfully, calmly, be honest and sincere and explain how you feel in an appropriate right way.

    January 8, 2020 at 7:17 pm #227540

    I’ll be bluntly honest here, but I think you should move on. That’s what I would personally do if I was in your situation.