Met girl IRL and now she’s ignoring me

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Met girl IRL and now she’s ignoring me

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    veganangelofdoom
    veganangelofdoom
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    April 29, 2018 at 4:09 pm #171807
    Met girl IRL and now she’s ignoring me

    I’ve been talking to this girl I met on an online dating app. She’s super chill and we had been really hitting it off the last week or so and she invited me to come to her place this weekend. I drove three hours to see her so I was kind of expecting that we might kiss at least, but that didn’t happen. Also, Ive been talking to her in total for about a couple of months now, but because I was bi she got scared and didn’t want to take the risk of me dating her and then going back to a guy. Honestly, I thought things went well and that she was over that… so I’m just not really sure where I went wrong. I mean, she keeps saying how she finds me very attractive and likes me, but she didn’t want to kiss me because she said she felt uncomfortable. Well, at the end of the night she started crying and said that she didn’t like all the pressure of hooking up. I left early this morning and apologized via text but she’s been ignoring me. I’m so confused. Please help.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    June 25, 2018 at 3:08 pm #177891

    First she blames it on you being (bi) and later she complains about pressure to hookup.

    “…she’s been ignoring me. I’m so confused” When someone ignores you it means they don’t want to deal with you!
    By now you’ve probably figured out she was not (into you). Hopefully you moved on to someone who is more mature.
    No one would invite someone they’re “attracted to” to drive three hours for a visit and then not give them a kiss.

    wolf1992
    wolf1992
    Participant
    October 20, 2018 at 5:27 pm #187615

    Dude, have you thought that maybe she’s just not super physically intimate with people she’s just met IRL? As someone on the asexual spectrum, I totally get not being too handsy. Give her space, ask her for her boundaries, be respectful. And thinking your entitled to a kiss after a three hour drive is a terrible assumption. You’re entitled to nothing. Maybe she just got out of a bad breakup where her partner left her for a man? Maybe she was sexually assaulted? Maybe she was just moody that day? Maybe shes ace/demi? There are SO MANY possibilities that you will not know about until you talk to her in an open and honest conversation!

    NHGUY123
    NHGUY123
    Participant
    October 20, 2018 at 10:12 pm #187620

    About 5 years ago I dated a woman for a month, one evening she told me that she didn’t want to “settle” and was continuing to stay on Match. She still flirted with me online. It is just how women on dating sites think. Often I believe that they want attention but are afraid to commit