My boyfriend overthinks a lot. What should I do?

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My boyfriend overthinks a lot. What should I do?

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    juliegurl27
    juliegurl27
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    July 10, 2018 at 4:37 am #178831
    My boyfriend overthinks a lot. What should I do?

    My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 months now. We’ve never been in a serious fight since we try hard not to get into any arguments. But just last night, after him knowing that I am joining a contest to win a free tour to the States, he was both saddened and mad. He overthinks that I might find someone there and leave him. I already assured him that if I won, I’ll not be entertaining anybody in the States. I also told him that there will be a total of 10 people going so he doesn’t need to worry. But still, he insists. What should I do?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    July 10, 2018 at 10:27 am #178866

    There is nothing (you) can do to address someone else’s emotional baggage and insecurity.
    Anyone who gets seriously upset over a (hypothetical situation) has some major issues.

    You haven’t even won the contest and he’s already both sad and mad you’re going somewhere without him.
    A secure boyfriend would be supportive, cheering you on, and hoping you achieve everything you want in life.

    This may be a “red flag” worth keeping an eye on.
    If your mate needs you to give up your dreams and goals in order for him to trust you and feel secure he may not be the one for you.

    Once you start jumping through hoops, walking on eggshells, or not being true to yourself in order keep the peace you die emotionally.
    Don’t let some guy you’ve only been dating for (3 months) control or manipulate you into giving up your dreams.
    Life is a (personal) journey. The world may not owe you anything but (you) owe yourself the world!

    Tell him you need to be with someone who supports your dreams.

    carapc73
    carapc73
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    July 10, 2018 at 12:20 pm #178885

    You need to tell him to take a chill pill. But all things aside, I think that you guys need to have a serious heart-to-heart on this topic. I had a similar situation and I handed it going to counseling for it. It worked for a period of time but then went back to the ways they used to be.

    juliegurl27
    juliegurl27
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    July 11, 2018 at 2:28 am #178947

    Thanks a lot for this insightful comment. I’ll surely learn a lot from this.

    juliegurl27
    juliegurl27
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    July 11, 2018 at 9:07 am #178948

    Yes, that’s right. I’ll talk to him regarding this.