my ex feels bad about not being friends?

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my ex feels bad about not being friends?

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    cgo1234567
    cgo1234567
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    January 6, 2019 at 6:08 pm #191982
    my ex feels bad about not being friends?

    A friend asked if my ex missed me. She said she misses me as a friend and feels bad because she told me we would continue to be friends.

    A Month later I contacted her and we ended up talking for 2 hours. She REPEATEDLY said I’m so glad you reached out to me and we are talking again. Basically we started by catching up then her bragging about all the guys she’s talked to and ended with her opening up to me about some deep stuff (didn’t even open up to during our friendship before)

    So my question is…. Is this some ego thing? why say i feel bad when she seems more desperate to stay friends?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    January 8, 2019 at 3:49 pm #192167

    “Basically we started by catching up then her {bragging about all the guys} she’s talked to…”
    Clearly that did not sit well with you. The reason you feel bad is you really don’t want to be “friends” with her.

    The point of the “no contact rule” is to allow plenty of time for (both people) to get over the breakup.
    It’s simply unrealistic to expect to go from being “red hot lovers” to instant “platonic friends” behaving as siblings.
    Ideally if a friendship is to be had it is best after each person has found a (new love) of their own.

    To completely move on from someone emotionally requires time.
    It does not sound like it has been enough time and distance between you two at this point.
    Your friend was out of line asking her if she missed you. in order to “move on” you have to “let go”.

    devdo
    devdo
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    January 9, 2019 at 11:52 pm #192281

    Don’t be friends with exes!