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    December2018
    December2018
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    December 20, 2018 at 4:06 pm #191514
    NEED ADVICE PLEASE tricky situation ?

    My ex and I broke up approx 15 days ago with her packing up only half of her clothes, shoes, toiletries etc. and moved in with her daughter and son-in-law. The place they live would not possibly hold any more of my ex items. Ex says she is done and has no plans to move back in with me, but she has left behind tons and I do mean tons of personal items, furniture, half her clothes/shoes, pictures on and on. ( would be a Uhaul truck full)
    While I hold out a hope that we would work through this and reunite, we talk only few times a week, but I am reading to do the no contact period.
    SO my question is…before starting the no contact, I wonder if she should remove all her belongings from my home, otherwise I wonder if that is to prevent me from moving on or if she intends to come back or what ?..so do I tell her to move it out if she does not live here ? Do I tell her I am hiring someone to come pack it and take it to a storage facility ? Or I just cause more harm asking her to move it immed

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    December 23, 2018 at 12:51 pm #191640

    Different states have different laws regarding disposing of another person’s property.
    They also have different lengths of time when items are considered abandoned.
    You may be able to write up a letter giving her 30 days to remove the items or you will consider them abandoned.
    Essentially you need to check with your local laws.

    You can also make sure you get something in writing if she does not want her things before you get rid of them.
    Once she states she doesn’t want them, keep a copy of the letter, and have a garage sale to make some money.
    You don’t want to end up stuck paying for a storage facility.

    “Ex says she is done and has no plans to move back in with me…”

    In order for your (ex) to have been “the one” she would have had to see (you) as being the one.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you!

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    Best wishes!