Need some advice


Need some advice

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    February 18, 2015 at 9:36 pm #73686
    Need some advice

    Ok. So Im a single dad and havent really dated much since its just been us two.
    I found a new sitter to watch my daughter after school and when I work late some nights and Im kinda liking the new sitters sister.
    Anyhow I think shes like 28ish and im 32 and Im kinda needing some advice on it.

    Im a little unsure that if I try and pursue the sister and its a no with her that it could mess things up with the sitter (unlikely it would ruin the sitter from watching her but its a godsend having her)

    So now, how do I let her know I am kinda liking her…….

    I was thinking maybe send some roses with a secret admirer note, but not sure how to follow up after that.

    Any advice is greatly appreciated

    February 28, 2015 at 9:46 am #74394

    is the sitter irreplaceable?
    if yes, I would say look elsewhere for dating.
    if any sitter would do, I’d say go ahead, ask her sister out, be cautious of course.
    if she says no, just take it in stride and hope the sitter still stays, but be ready if she doesn’t.
    but I would advise against the “secret admirer” note, just be open about it.

    March 2, 2015 at 9:12 am #74418


    You were “thinking maybe send some roses with a secret admirer note”????
    DON’T DO IT! It only works in the movies. You would mess it up.

    March 2, 2015 at 9:13 am #74419

    Hi, Mpenney,

    Do you talk to her at all? Do you have the chance to talk to her in any occasion?
    The first thing to do is get her to know first. Why do you think she will go on a date with you without knowing anything about you?
    You need to make her want to hangout with you.
    Most girls probably will say no to a guy, just because they don’t know what tha guy has to offer to them.
    Put yourself on her shoes: why would she spent a couple of hours with you without knowing what kind of person you are?

    You need to have at least an idea of what the girl likes. So you can suggest her hanging out to some kind of place or event that is interesting for her – of course you need to share that interest. Don’t go there just pretending you like something you don’t.

    Actually, if you talk a bit with her about some interest you both have, she will be keener to hangout, because she already trusts you a litle bit (because of her sister)

    DO NOT do the secret admirer stuff! It only works in the movies.