Online dating – specifying what I'm looking for

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Online dating – specifying what I'm looking for

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    tstudent
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    July 27, 2018 at 3:28 am #180318
    Online dating – specifying what I'm looking for

    Hello! This question is about wording the following idea nicely in an online dating profile:

    – I’m looking for a long-term relationship
    – I don’t want to give an impression that I desperately need to find someone and already have rings waiting and that it would have to be super serious right away
    – I’m not against having something casual while looking for the one

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    July 27, 2018 at 2:59 pm #180383

    Forget about saying you’re looking for a long-term relationship, marriage, or whatever!
    Your goal should be to meet someone who shares your same values and interests.

    You’re not going to know if you want a long-term relationship or be exclusive with someone until after you get to know them!
    Naturally if both people see each other as being “special” things will (naturally) evolve into something serious.

    You might say something like;
    I’m an honest, sincere, affectionate, fun loving person seeking a likeminded individual to explore some possibilities.
    I enjoy…. My favorite… place to visit is, food, music, hobbies…

    Be weary of anyone who tells you they’re “ready to get married” and they don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend!
    Essentially they’re chasing after a marital status and in search of a “prop”.

    The “special person” you are already with should be the reason why you’re suddenly having thoughts of marriage.
    The goal is to find the “right one” not the “next one”.

    joselcollin
    joselcollin
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    September 4, 2018 at 3:09 am #183308

    Thank you

    slimslim25
    slimslim25
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    September 4, 2018 at 10:24 pm #183406

    I agree very much so with some of the other posters. You shouldn’t focus on making it clear that you’re looking for a long term or short term relationship necessarily, though its not a horrible thing to mention. I recommend making it clear your likes and dislikes so you can connect with someone who has similar interests and then figure out if you two would be able to eventually be in a certain status with each other.