Perimenopause Stage?  Sex Ultimatum?

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Perimenopause Stage? Sex Ultimatum?

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    sizzlincow
    sizzlincow
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    May 13, 2018 at 6:26 pm #173044
    Perimenopause Stage? Sex Ultimatum?

    She is very anxious and nervous about skipped periods. She said she cannot focus on sex if she didn’t get her period. She said “no period no sex.” She is nervous, I get it, fine, let’s wait for her period.

    Then I thought… she may be experiencing perimenopause. What if she doesn’t get a period for 6 months? She said, then no sex for 6 months.

    If I knew she had such a ridiculously low sex drive, I would not have dated her. We are aged 40. Did she issue a sex ultimatum?

    • This topic was modified 5 months, 1 week ago by sizzlincow sizzlincow.
    Savykitty
    Savykitty
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    May 30, 2018 at 2:43 pm #175649

    First, Is she not on birth control? If not, she should be. You can still get pregnant on BC but its very unlikely. Even still BC plus condoms would make pregnancy miraculous. She may have not literally meant six months.
    Second, talk it out with her. Maybe go see a doctor about her periods.
    Third, if she still not wanting to have sex, perhaps she is not the one for you. Maybe if this is the deciding factor in your relationship which cannot be fixed, then how attached to her are you really? If neither side and give an inch then it won’t work. You must give and take in a relationship.

    TheGuy
    TheGuy
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    June 3, 2018 at 2:44 am #175971

    this girl does not sound like the one, sorry, if I were you I would keep meeting others and keep this one around and see if she changes her mind, if you meet someone you like then you should change, but if she not willing to change for you then move on, a girl should make her guy happy and vice versa.

    TheGuy
    TheGuy
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    June 3, 2018 at 2:45 am #175972

    not saying be a playboy but you will loose years of you life with someone who not wright,

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    June 3, 2018 at 3:16 pm #175992

    You said: “If I knew she had such a ridiculously low sex drive, I would not have dated her. We are aged 40.”
    Now you know and you’re still there! Clearly no sex isn’t a “deal breaker” or else you would be gone.
    Her doctor could tell her if she’s approaching the end of having periods.
    Some women actually find it liberating to know they done with that facet of their live.
    Nevertheless she may experience dryness or irritation with sex during menopause.

    Did she issue a sex ultimatum? No.
    An ultimatum is when someone tells (you) to either do what they want or (they) are going to leave.
    Sound like you may be the one who is considering giving her an ultimatum.
    At last you didn’t mention if she offer a mutual exchange to please you manually, with oral sex, or any other alternative to vaginal.
    If the answer is “no” You may want to move on. If someone is “into you” they’ll usually try to find a way to please their partner.
    Odds are if you stay you will eventually cheat.