Player or Indecisive?

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Player or Indecisive?

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    zachsby
    zachsby
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    September 22, 2018 at 2:52 am #185052
    Player or Indecisive?

    So I met this girl back in January who approached me. She was cute enough so I asked her out and we went on 4 dates. During this time she invited me to a friend’s wedding, among other activities.

    Then in July she ended it. I just thought she lost interest, but then she posted something on her facebook page the very next day talking about how life is full of disappointments and things don’t always go how we hope.

    After a month of no contact, she approaches me and starts flirting with me. I was going to meet her and her friends to go dancing. (It’s something she does with her group often). She tells me to dress handsome so that I can impress her friends.

    The next 2-3 weeks we text a little and I ask her out twice, but she just ignores the text. She still flirts with me, but also flirts with random guys on facebook she just met too. Sounds like a player, but a friend of mine just thinks she’s indecisive and might be interested in the future. Thoughts?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    September 23, 2018 at 8:35 pm #185065

    How old is this girl?

    A “player” is someone who knows what they’re doing and they have a strategy for getting what they want.
    This girl may simply be immature and unclear about what she wants in her life right now.
    That doesn’t make her a “player”.

    You said in July “she ended it.”
    You had only been on 4 dates! There was no “relationship” to end.
    Even now neither of you is an “exclusive/committed relationship” and you both have every right to flirt with and date other people.

    If you have to “figure out” if someone is “into you” it usually means they’re NOT.
    Hopefully you’re keeping your options open by seeing other girls.

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    Best wishes!

    icecake89
    icecake89
    Participant
    September 24, 2018 at 3:32 am #185075

    To me it sounds like she’s playing games with you. She could also be trying to play the field and gauging which guy will show her the most attention. I’d say stop contacting her for a while and see if she is actually interested or just enjoying the attention.

    zachsby
    zachsby
    Participant
    September 24, 2018 at 8:33 am #185069

    She is 34. Yes, I did say she ended it. I also said she came back too. Yes, there is nothing wrong flirting with other people if we’re not together, just seemed weird to me she would flirt with me and some random stranger. Just seemed weird, that’s all.

    I never said it was a relationship nor did I intend to imply it. When I said ended it, just meant ending going on dates. Trying to figure someone out may mean they are not usually into you, but this case is a little interesting. Yes, always keeping other options open as always.

    Thank you.