Really Tough Situation – Need Advice

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Really Tough Situation – Need Advice

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    jt7
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    July 27, 2018 at 5:41 pm #180410
    Really Tough Situation – Need Advice

    Hey All, so as the title suggests, i’m in a tough spot. Let me preface this by saying I WAS a player. I would never cheat, but I picked up girl after girl and then nicely told them I wasn’t interested a few days later.
    So to the current spot i’m in. I decided to cut this lifestyle out a few months back, and about 6 weeks ago I met literally my DREAM girl at the gym. We’d be staring at each other for weeks, and I finally got the courage to ask her out. She said yes, and we hit it off completely. She would tell me daily how happy she was, how thankful even she was to have said yes to a date – really giving me security. When we’re together, she would be super cuddly and cute – and I was really happy.
    Unfortunately, I had broken my own rule of being too much – and would ask her out all the time(when I know I shouldn’t, but only because she seemed really into it) Anyway, she texts me yesterday saying that shes going through too much personal stuff to deal with a relationship. Part 2 below

    jt7
    jt7
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    July 27, 2018 at 5:43 pm #180412

    And I do genuinely believe her, she had gone through something rough that required some therapy. I responded by saying that we can just pause things where we’re at and not get too too serious until she’s comfortable, but that I didn’t want to lose the relationship we currently had – to which she didn’t respond – yet has viewed my snapchat/instagram stories etc – so I know she’s seen my message.

    What do I do? I genuinely really like this girl and have never exactly felt such a connection. Is there any rescuing this? I really don’t want to just move on just yet.

    I appreciate you taking the time to read this, and am thankful to anyone who can offer some help.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    July 28, 2018 at 4:48 pm #180435

    1. “she {texts} me yesterday saying that she’s going through too much personal stuff to deal with a relationship.”
    I’ve always said: “You (text) people you don’t want to {talk} to.”

    2. You told her you didn’t want to lose the relationship you had. {she didn’t respond} …. “I know she’s seen my message.”
    The text was meant as a “Dear John” letter. The reason she chose to text you is because she didn’t want a “conversation”.

    3. “What do I do? I really don’t want to just move on just yet.”
    Don’t stalk her!

    As a “former player” you ought to know if someone gets dumped it’s pretty much over.
    One person can’t keep a relationship or friendship going. Both people have to want that in order for it to happen.
    On some level you know (the right answer) is to move on.

    You may also be wondering: If this is “karma” for the girls you dumped?
    It’s not! Everyone gets dumped or rejected from time to time. That’s life!
    In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: NEXT!