Relationship Milestones

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Relationship Milestones

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    LJWentworth32
    LJWentworth32
    Participant
    January 23, 2019 at 10:43 pm #193308
    Relationship Milestones

    So I’m completely new to dating so any help is appreciated.

    Started seeing a girl for 2 months and we’ve seen each other about once every week, on the weekends. So been on maybe 7 dates. We live an hour away and work is busy. But at some point, when do people start seeing each other say twice a week, then several times a week, then all the time?

    Also when does the exclusivity, relationship chat come in and does the woman usually initiate that?

    We’ve been intimate and stayed overnight but none of these talks come into play and at some point I want to see her more but am afraid to be too needy.

    I’m completely lost.

    CuriousGuy
    CuriousGuy
    Participant
    January 25, 2019 at 7:09 am #193396

    Usually the girl brings it up for me. but if you are curious there is no harm in asking her how thinks your relationship is going.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    January 25, 2019 at 12:31 pm #193418

    Slow your roll!

    Seven dates is way too soon to be thinking about being an exclusive couple.
    You’re still in the “infatuation phase” and have yet to see each other’s “authentic selves”.
    Enjoy what you have and let things naturally evolve in the direction they were meant to.

    In the mean time keep your options open by dating other women from time to time.
    The biggest mistake people often make is “assuming” or behaving as if they’re in a relationship when they’re not!
    Not always being available will also make her miss you or want to push things forward (if) she’s into you.
    When a woman senses she is becoming “emotionally invested” in a man she demands to know where she stands with him.
    Typically that occurs after 3-4 months of having great sex and fun times. Suddenly she asks: “What are we?”

    GJ
    GJ
    Participant
    January 26, 2019 at 10:22 am #193494

    Welcome to the world of dating and relationships. Wow! What a potentially exciting and confusing time. Your questions are very common because when we connect with others in a romantic way it stirs up a great deal of feelings. Hunger fro more intimacy, the fear of losing what we have and so much more.

    What we need to be careful about with all of these powerful feelings and not to let them cloud reality. Clinically we call this “Reality Testing.”
    Think about how complicated your relationship is with yourself. A lot of feelings; some more comfortable and pleasant than others. Now consider another person with their relationship to themselves. When two people start to date you have the combination of you, the other person and now the combination of the two of you. There is a great deal of stimulation. some is exciting and some often creates worry, anxiety, and confusion.

    GJ
    GJ
    Participant
    January 26, 2019 at 10:30 am #193495

    Learning to date is very similar to learning to drive a car. You first learn how to control the car and slowly progress to traveling in more crowded and faster moving roads. In dating you are the car. Take it slow. Dating and relationships are not events. They evolve in time as a process. If the connection between the two of you continues to develop look for the signs, the words, the hints that she wants to spend more time with you. Let the relationship move in one way or another. Only time will tell. One thing for sure, if you obsess over losing this relationship you could miss all the road signs or do things to attempt to move this relationship too fast and scaring her away. Have fun and enjoy the journey.