Should I date a guy my coworker warned me about or should I give him a chance?

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Should I date a guy my coworker warned me about or should I give him a chance?

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    mscara
    mscara
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    November 22, 2018 at 6:58 pm #189715
    Should I date a guy my coworker warned me about or should I give him a chance?

    So this guy that used to work at Starbucks before me, came to visit yesterday and he was cute and charming, not super humble though. Anyway he asked for my Snapchat and we’ve snapped only a couple times, but he asked me out. The only problem is my coworker told me not to date him, the only reason she gave was because he was a mess. I think he dated my other coworker a while ago as well, but I’m not 100% sure. Right when we first started Snapping, he said some of my coworkers might say mean things about him, but not to listen cuz they’re not true. I don’t want to judge him based on other people’s opinions, but I’d be stupid to not consider my friend’s words. What should I do?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    November 23, 2018 at 3:14 pm #189726

    It really depends on whether or not you believe your (friend)/co-worker is honest and trustworthy.
    Assuming your friend doesn’t want the guy for herself then odds are she is looking out for you.

    One “red flag” that jumps out is apparently this guy knows he has a bad reputation.
    “.he said some of my coworkers might say mean things about him.”
    He wouldn’t say that unless he knew something he did was bad enough to be shared among your co-workers.
    For all you know your co-worker fell in love with the guy and busted him cheating or he had sex with her and then dumped her.
    Her seeing him dating her co-worker would be extremely painful to watch.

    Last but not least some girls have something similar to a “bro code” (Bros before hoes) in which they say:
    “Chick before pricks” In other words they wouldn’t let a “guy” come between their friendship..
    Even if you don’t consider your co-workers to be “friends” they could make working there difficult for you.
    Is he worth a job change?