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julesParticipantMarch 28, 2018 at 2:15 pm #168819
I met this nice guy at a party and we hit it off and we had sex that night, honestly we both were drunk so I expected nothing after. He contacted me and we went on a date few days later and he said he wants a relationship not just a hookup.
The problem is, he just got out of a super intense relationship and breakup 6 weeks ago. He said it wasnt easy on him and he was bawling his eyes out for days after. (He didnt flat out offer this information but I kind of probed him.) he only dated her for 8-9 months so I thought it wasnt that serious.
He says hes over it and actually wants us to go skiing for a week soon. He even asked if I want kids one day (not with him, just in general.)
He says hes over the breakup and wants a relationship, should I believe him? Hes so charming and flirty and doesnt seem sad honestly. I know him and his ex still randomly text and talk on the phone but Im not sure how often and about what.
Oh Boy!!ParticipantMarch 28, 2018 at 9:55 pm #168867
Why not? If you like him then go for it and if after a while he and his ex are still talking then I would mention it but until then have a good time.
Dreamer86ParticipantMarch 30, 2018 at 4:10 pm #169208
Proceed with caution. 8 to 9 months is enough time to develop serious feelings. 6 weeks isnt all that long ago and for a guy to cry fpr days shpws he had some hardcore feelings. So go for it, but keep up your guard.
Am19ParticipantApril 8, 2018 at 9:58 am #169892
Try it out to see how it goes; if you are not into it then tell him. Go have fun in the date
KangaParticipantApril 8, 2018 at 12:59 pm #169899
Definitely continue to see him and see how things go, like everyone so far has commented. The ex still sort of being around is…if it is something that continues and especially if it’s something that bothers you, then do bring that up. I have exes that I am friends with but it’s taken a while to I guess shut off those feelings (from both sides) where we truly do just see each other as friends. My last relationship was for about a yr and I’d say it took me around 2-3 months to really feel truly over? him/the issues we had before I felt I could be in a relationship again without bringing baggage into a new relationship from that one (if that makes sense). Don’t question yourself or the situation so much, go with the flow of things and if red flags do start to pop up then just be honest with each other and especially with yourself!
Coach_Michael21ParticipantApril 12, 2018 at 11:41 pm #170410
I would like to echo the sentiments of the previous commenters.Continue to date him, but remember to always keep your heart guarded, especially in the beginning, and don’t expect too much out of the relationship too quickly. When our expectations become too much too soon, that’s when the pain tends to happen.
amirstagramParticipantApril 13, 2018 at 2:36 am #170413
Follow your heart.
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