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What are you waiting for? One mouse click could be all that stands between you and your next romance!December 21, 2018 at 5:15 pm #191605
I used to be in the same school with this girl 4 years ago we got along well as friends but she moved to another country 2 years ago, and since then, our interactions have been limited to texting on FB everyday.During this period, I started developing romantic feelings for her. Two months ago, I told her how I felt towards her and asked if she felt the same, and she replied “I do like you but I don’t want to date anyone right now” and also that she doesn’t like long-distance relationships since they never work out and that she hasn’t gotten over her previous long-distance relationship that broke her heart.At the same time, she had/has shown signs of interest by initiating text convos or putting the effort to continue them when I seemed to “draw back”. And she also used to send me pics of herself without me asking for it .
Would you advice me to give it another try with her or should I just move on? Also; in my current stage, would you say she’s friend-zoned me or she really likes me?
ImInsecure89ParticipantDecember 23, 2018 at 5:35 am #191631
I say you should. If it doesn’t work then it doesn’t work but you should try. You got nothing to lose.
dashingscorpioParticipantDecember 23, 2018 at 12:19 pm #191637
“she replied “I do like you but I don’t want to date anyone right now”
It’s the equivalent of someone saying: “I love you but I’m not (in love) with you.”
In other words she said: “I don’t see YOU as being the one for me.”
Welcome to the “Friend Zone”!
Just because someone does not rudely reject you doesn’t mean you were not rejected.
Tell her you understand how she feels and you have decided to pursue relationships with local girls.
From this point on treat her as you would a sibling or male friend.
In order for (her) to have been “the one” she would have had to see (you) as being “the one”.
At the very least a soulmate is someone who actually wants to be with you!
In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!
ok2goParticipantDecember 26, 2018 at 6:56 am #191673
You’d always be #2 (or #pick one) so (as you say) draw back. You don’t have to cut all communication but don’t put any effort or attention into it. You’re friendzoned in another country…. pretty huge disadvantage. If she wants to make a move be open to it, but probably she just wants the validation at times. Move on.
Olivia_davissParticipantFebruary 9, 2019 at 3:42 pm #194543
Honestly I would say at least try it with her the fact you noticed her means you have feelings for her and you aren’t likely to find someone else if you already like this girl
BlakeParticipantFebruary 10, 2019 at 9:08 am #194559
She made very clear she isnt interested in a long distance relationship. She didnt decide to tell you that, like as if she was chosing between having a Coke or Fanta. You are a friend and she wanted to be honest to you, so it’s quite certain she hasn’t all of a sudden changed her mind. However, everyone likes to be liked by someone and getting attention. She clearly likes your attention, but I’m afraid you won’t get what you are after. I would look elsewhere, if it’s destined to happen that you to end up together, it might happen in the future.
GJParticipantFebruary 10, 2019 at 10:48 am #194569
Hello Rey Histerio
I read your post and would like to assist you. however I need some background information to provide you the right feedback. Kindly reflrect on the following and provide your answers:
1. What is your age?
2. What is your relationship history?
3. What do you specifically like about this woman? Be very specific and avoid terms like romantic feelings. We have no idea what that means.
I look forward to your reply and will continue to give you my feed back
cvv369ParticipantFebruary 12, 2019 at 4:06 pm #194841
Best to move on mate. Be glad you tried.
brak86ParticipantFebruary 14, 2019 at 1:09 pm #194991
I would move on. You can work on yourself and get better relationships.
JoxerParticipantFebruary 19, 2019 at 2:26 pm #195190
I’m in a quite similar situation. It’s not easy to accept that a person may not be into you, and move on.
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