Should I give up on the love of my life? How do I get her back?

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Should I give up on the love of my life? How do I get her back?

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    thisguy9
    thisguy9
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    July 8, 2018 at 1:33 am #178711
    Should I give up on the love of my life? How do I get her back?

    We’ve dated for 3 years. The first breakup I was too needy and dependent, and I honestly really needed it. After several months she saw some changes I made and wanted me back. This time I overcompensated for some of the things that went wrong in our first relationship, I didn’t find that right balance. I didn’t open up enough, or communicate enough and it bit me in the butt. If I didn’t truly believe that I was supposed to be with this girl then I would move on, but based on various Godly signs and experiences we’ve had together I know in my heart I can’t give up on us; We haven’t been as close as we used to be, which goes both ways but I know how we can fix it. I’m not really sure what to do now, I talked to her today for the first time since, and she’s happy. She said she wished we did work, but she doesn’t want to put the effort in to fix it because she doesn’t think it will work. I know she loves me and cares for me, but she fell out of love. What should my steps be at this point?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    July 8, 2018 at 1:18 pm #178721

    “I know in my heart I can’t give up on us.”
    “I know how we can fix it.”

    “… she’s happy.”
    “she doesn’t want to put the effort in to fix it because she doesn’t think it will work.”
    ” I know she loves me and cares for me, but {she fell out of love}.”

    Don’t buy into the idea of obstacles as being romantic!
    We see this all the time in romance novels and Hollywood movies where couples go through ups and downs.
    Ultimately they end up living happily ever after. That’s NOT real life!
    I read a quote recently: “Love is like a fart, if you have to force it, it’s probably sh*t!”

    The truth is (one person) cannot fix a relationship. Both people have to want to be in the relationship.

    In order for (her) to be “the one” she would have to see (you) as being “the one”.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa)

    Thankfully there are over 7 Billion other people on the planet.
    Every ending is a new beginning!

    Best wishes!