Should I give up or keep trying

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Should I give up or keep trying

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    Jam1234
    Jam1234
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    April 6, 2019 at 10:23 am #198234
    Should I give up or keep trying

    Theres this boy I really like and we met by chance a year ago at a store and never spoke again. Then we saw each other again a year later and talked a little and I went to a party of his. The next day he messaged me online to tell me that he really liked me. I had a boyfriend at the time and told him this. Two months later I had no boyfriend and he invited me to another party. I told him I didnt have a boyfriend anymore and was so ecstatic and we kissed and he kept picking me up and dancing with me all night. I slept over and he didnt want to even sleepwnith me because he kept saying he didnt want to mess this up. Then the next day he walked me home and kissed me and gave me his number. We talked lightly over text but sometimes I accidentally left him on read. He was very flirtatious and asked me to hang out once but things didnt work out.

    Jam1234
    Jam1234
    Participant
    April 6, 2019 at 10:24 am #198235

    Then we were at the same party a few weeks later and he was much different towards me and less flirtatious and we went back to his place afterwards and he was much colder and only really wanted to hookup seemingly. It was like polar opposites. What changed? He doesn’t have a girlfriend or anything. Should I keep trying to pursue him or is it a dead end.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    April 6, 2019 at 3:50 pm #198237

    It’s not clear what you are “trying” to accomplish.

    ” What changed? He doesn’t have a girlfriend or anything.”
    (As far as YOU know. He could be interested in someone else.)

    “…sometimes I accidentally left him on read.”
    “He was very flirtatious and asked me to hang out once but things didnt work out. ”

    Depending on (why) and how it didn’t work out might also have a lot to do with him cooling off towards you.
    Nobody enjoys being rejected and some people take it more personally than others.

    You said (he) was very flirtatious but didn’t mention whether or not you were very flirtatious with him as well.
    {He may have felt YOU were NOT as “into him” as he was “into you” so he distanced himself.}

    Contrary to popular opinion men really don’t “love the chase”.
    They want there to be (mutual interest) these days.
    Most likely he didn’t try something the first time because he was afraid of being rejected.
    He probably tried to hookup with you as a final push to see you were “into him”.

    newuser212
    newuser212
    Participant
    April 7, 2019 at 9:20 am #198246

    Keep trying and don’t give up

    jessicaNv
    jessicaNv
    Participant
    May 3, 2019 at 11:50 am #199840

    keep trying