Should i keep trying with this girl ?

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Should i keep trying with this girl ?

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    jinx2019
    jinx2019
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    April 25, 2019 at 8:33 am #199147
    Should i keep trying with this girl ?

    There is this girl i know through Facebook only.
    She is 21 & i’m 23. We text each other a lot and we exchanged numbers, but the thing is when i offered to call her so we can speak on the phone ( clearly better that just texting ), she says that she is not alone. Also i offered twice to come see her where she studies or even hang out, but she keeps making excuses like she is busy or she is going out with friends. The thing is i can’t blame her since we don’t know each other, we are like a bit more than strangers. I felt like i was the one doing all the effort for nothing so i figured out that she is just not interested and never texted her again. After 10 days, she texted and this was actually the first time she initiates the conversation and it looked like she missed our chats, now I’m confused. Maybe she is just shy or nervous ?
    I don’t want to make any more offers to come see her or call her because i will feel needy. How should i handle this ? Should i take it slow ?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    April 28, 2019 at 12:00 am #199353

    “when i offered to call her so we can speak on the phone… she says that she is not alone”
    “she keeps making excuses like she is busy or she is going out with friends.”
    “I felt like i was the one doing all the effort for nothing….”

    Clearly she either has a boyfriend, possibly “catfishing you”, or she is NOT romantically interested in you.
    For whatever reason she has placed you in the “friend zone”.
    When you chose to disappear for 10 days she missed her (friend).

    Just because she finally broke down and initiated contact with you does not mean she wants to date you.
    Some people are known for never letting go. They will check back from time to time to verify (you’re) still into them.

    You should date other women and not dwell on her.
    If she reaches out to you feel free to keep things short or make excuses for why you can’t chat long.
    She’ll either make more of an effort or she’ll disappear altogether. In the mean time live your life.

    ElegantBrie
    ElegantBrie
    Participant
    April 30, 2019 at 11:42 pm #199600

    I would suggest not going after her. She does not seem interested in you in a romantic way, and also possibly has an s/o already.

    mike p
    mike p
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    May 2, 2019 at 7:18 pm #199768

    best just be honest and upfront with her.

    Chicagofan123
    Chicagofan123
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    May 6, 2019 at 10:55 am #199939

    Definitely just be straightforward with her