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[jennarose613Participant]

February 18, 2016 at 3:46 pm #93876

Should I let him go? Or see if there's a future?

So I’ve been talking to this guy, he’s a friend of one of my friends, so we have spent some time together. But we have been texting each other quite consistently for the past month. We have great conversations, I feel super comfortable around him and literally feel like I could tell him anything, we have an amazing connection.
Our messages have always been somewhat “flirty” and recently we had a talk about what this all means, etc. There are clearly mutual feelings between us. The problem is, I just got out of a 5 year relationship and I need time (like a year or more!) I’ve explained that to him, and he respects that.

The problem is, I have this feeling that I may not good for him, I still have feelings for him, but I think that if we started seeing each other it wouldn’t work out and the last thing I want is to ruin our friendship and make it awkward because of our mutual friends.

[jennarose613Participant]

February 18, 2016 at 3:47 pm #93877

CONTINUED:

I do really like him, and that’s the problem, I feel like I should stop these text messages but at the same time, I love them, I love talking with him. And I don’t want to stop them, which may be a selfish reason.

So I guess I’m asking what I should do?
Should I tell him how I feel and that there may not be a future but more than friends between us and change the tone of our messages?
Or should I see where it goes between us. Even though I need time, he said that we can be friends until I’m ready (although friends probably don’t text like we do), that is so long from now, so maybe I should just continue on and see what happens within the next year???

Thanks in advance! Any advice is helpful! 🙂

[djamesParticipant]

February 18, 2016 at 6:42 pm #93906

If you wait too long you’ll probably lose your opportunity. With that being said, you don’t want to rush thing especially if you just got out of a relationship. If he’s on board to keep it casual for now then by all means keep it casual, just realize that a relationship like that can’t sustain itself forever 🙂