Should I or should I not have sex with him?

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Should I or should I not have sex with him?

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    GreatLove44
    GreatLove44
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    January 8, 2019 at 2:35 pm #192149
    Should I or should I not have sex with him?

    I just turned 29. So I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month now. We bonded really well and I am attracted to him. BUT, day one he told me he’s not jumping into a relationship. Then why the hell did he take me to the movies?? It took a long time for me to realize he didn’t want to be with me because we’ve been hanging out. He doesn’t want a relationship because he just got out of a relationship. He doesn’t want to rush things. I get that. I don’t want to rush in terms of having sex because I’ve been burned in the past for going to quick. But we are attracted to each other. I told him we should wait to have sex in the beginning but I really want to now because I like sex. We’ve been flirting and tension is building up. However there is a chance I will get hurt because we are not together he can do what ever he wants, with who he wants at any time.
    What should I do? Do the do? Wait? or call it quits?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    January 8, 2019 at 2:56 pm #192152

    “Should I or should I not have sex with him? ”
    The only reason anyone should have sex is because THEY want to!

    A mistake a lot of people make is believing sex will solidify their relationship or cause someone to fall in love with them.
    Others have sex because they feel pressured or they fear they will lose the person they’re seeing.

    Do not ever have sex with a “hidden agenda” or with an expectation of anything beyond having an orgasm!
    If you have sex on those terms you should never feel used or taken advantage of.

    Last but not least going to the movies or any other outing doesn’t mean someone wants an exclusive relationship.
    When a guy tells you he doesn’t want to jump into a relationship what he’s telling you is he’s keeping his options open.
    In the event you hear about him being with another girl he will remind you he said he didn’t want anything “serious”.
    He doesn’t see (you) as being “the one”.

    You should keep (your) options open by dating other guys. Don’t look at sex as a segue into love.

    GreatLove44
    GreatLove44
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    January 10, 2019 at 2:17 pm #192383

    Thanks that puts it in perspective. I’ve moved on because if we both aren’t on the same page then why stay. Definitely keeping my options open.