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Jordan314ParticipantJanuary 21, 2014 at 1:52 pm #46265
I met this girl on match.com. we went out for a first date last week (that was on Tuesday). There were a lot of signs proved the date went really well, unless she was just too polite.
She texted me the next day to thank me for the dinner. and I replied politely and I implied that I had really good time, and wishing her luck with her big project on that weekend, without asking her out on a second date.
On Thursday, I texted her asking her out on a second date. Never heard back from her.
I know she had something she’s really stressed out about over the weekend. It has been so far 5 days.
I’m kind of a person, if I really like a girl, which is usually not that often, I’d really like a closure to move on, so I’m thinking to send her just a follow up text this Thursday (7 day from my last text) saying something like “hey, hope your project wasn’t too overwhelming, I want to hear more about it! How about hanging next Tue, 7 pm, same place! And I’m not taking No for an answer 😉 “
Jordan314ParticipantJanuary 21, 2014 at 2:23 pm #46272
I’d really appreciate an honest and positive opinion/suggestion without butchering my feelings! Cause I know there are a lot douche-s out there! 😉
thatshittycivicParticipantJanuary 23, 2014 at 11:40 pm #46437
call her so you can feel out her reaction, shell have time to think over text. I’m the same way man. Closure is important but could lead to pain or the truth which may be good or bad. deff call though, you’ll be able to feel out her honest reaction and tone. Take no for an answer, let her be her. bitches be crazy man
AbbaDabbaDewParticipantJanuary 24, 2014 at 11:59 am #46471
Well being Match.com, she may be dating someone else and not wanting to reply to you so quickly to get your hopes up. She may be waiting to see how aggressive you are in pursuing a second date.
But I agree, no answer to the text then call her. Be prepared to leave a voicemail. If you don’t receive a call back or a text within a week then time to move on.
nasosParticipantJanuary 25, 2014 at 3:28 am #46539
Text her again and ask her about the project she had.
If she is polite she will answer.
jimmye_25ParticipantJanuary 25, 2014 at 5:52 pm #46548
I’d say call, txt can be so informal when it comes to important topics. During the call feel her out.
pr3ttyblue27ParticipantJanuary 25, 2014 at 7:54 pm #46555
I don’t think she’s interested. It doesn’t take much time to text. Sorry, that’s just my thoughts.
Travis321ParticipantJanuary 25, 2014 at 11:08 pm #46557
it happened to me when I was texting a girl I had a crush on, she would not reply often which would make me sad.
teamsconParticipantJanuary 26, 2014 at 10:30 am #46560
People put all these rules about “ooo dont txt her after the date” etc etc. All this is assuming she wants/needs to play games. Hell if she doesnt like games, she may think your a player .. Because obviously you didnt think much of her after the date to keep txting .. Or your playing games.
Unfortunately, you have alot of bad signs going. Im experienced with online dating and DO ALOT of work there. It has paid off big time for me.
Online dating women are crazzzzzzzy picky. They get 100+ messages a day and have a world of options. You have to find the right girl, and make her see something different in you then the other tools. I always seperate myself from the other guys on the site saying “ugh I bet there are so many crazies on xxxx” etc ..
Send her another txt .. see what happens 🙂
moomoo_xoxoParticipantJanuary 26, 2014 at 11:25 pm #46587
I’m having the same problem with a bloke
DrangoParticipantJanuary 27, 2014 at 12:30 am #46590
Yep. Same issue.
AnonymousJanuary 27, 2014 at 4:30 am #46604
yes you should do sms
runnergal13ParticipantJanuary 28, 2014 at 12:27 am #46689
You never know, she could just really be busy. But usually when someone doesn’t respond, it’s a bad sign. That was a good move you made giving her space for a week. Try texting her that follow up text you wrote. You will never know what could have happened unless you try!
If she never responds, then you have your answer. She’s rude and not worth your time. There’s other ladies out there who would be into you.
butterflyParticipantJanuary 28, 2014 at 12:32 pm #46723
She may indeed be stressed with work. I’ve been “the girl” with that situation. There are so many factors at play. If you met on Match she could also be trying to make a decision. Match (and sites like it) create a weird dynamic because it’s feast or famine. I’m currently on Match but can’t seem to make up my mind about the simplest things. I’m generally a very decisive person but not when it comes to “the second date.” She may be experiencing the same thing. She may like you but isn’t sure if she should accept a second date. The questions surrounding that (if she’s like me and isn’t accustomed to dating multiple people) are: Does this mean I shouldn’t go on other coffee dates? Am I locking myself into the right person? There’s another person I’m interested in as well, should I wait until after that date? Geez sounds neurotic but there it is. Sorry if I created more questions.
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