Single for 8+ years and not sure what to do.


Single for 8+ years and not sure what to do.

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    May 7, 2015 at 5:13 am #78581
    Single for 8+ years and not sure what to do.

    I have been single for 8 years now (almost 9) whenever I ask someone out I either get “friend zoned” or straight out rejected and they leave my life entirely. I always get the same “you are an awesome guy and you will find someone” speech. It does not seem to matter how I meet the women it always ends before I can get a first date. I have tried meeting people the traditional way, dating sites and even recently resorted to apps like Tinder. Online and apps have given me zero matches. I am 30 years old male with a bachelor’s degree (double major from a respected University) I work two jobs one I work with the developmentally disabled and own my own business. I am intelligent, funny, loyal, honest, and a good friend. Also been told I have a great personality by friends and the women who turn me down. I am overweight but I am currently working on changing that. I am also not a very confident man. Any advice would be helpful.

    B Samuels
    B Samuels
    May 9, 2015 at 3:00 am #78666

    Hey bro,
    There’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy. But when it comes to attracting women, you want to be moving the interaction in a sexual manner from the first minute you meet her.
    If you start with making logical small conversations when you talk to women, you are not going to spark any interest in her sexually whatsoever.. Resulting in her just seeing you as a friend.
    Your job, income, and education is irrelevant when it comes to attracting women!
    When you see a girl you are interested in, you have spark an emotion inside of her. Best way is to make her laugh to start with. If you get a positive response from her, assume that she is interested in you.
    From here, You want to start playfully and casually flirting with her.
    Show interest in her, but don’t come across needy or like you are outcome oriented.. She has to work for your acceptance, just as you have to work for hers.
    If you want some in depth answers, email me at
    Happy to help!