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Someone i've been dating is still active on dating sites

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    keren
    keren
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    June 5, 2019 at 5:57 am #201639
    Someone i've been dating is still active on dating sites

    It’s a little embarrassing though.. but i need an advice. So.. i met someone on a dating-site called Daterex com, he seemed to be a nice guy, we went on few dates and everything was nice, we started to get intimate and after few dates we had sex, which was very nice, but then few days after he started to act strange, like suddenly he became too busy to meet with me… Another friend of mine is also on this dating-site and i decided to talk to her about it, and we found out that this guy is basically seeing her also while dating me. so i’m wondering what i should do next? should i avoid it and let it go, or should i finish with him? looking for your advice 🙏

    sinpleman44
    sinpleman44
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    June 5, 2019 at 3:12 pm #201642

    If you guys didn’t talk about being exclusive then you can’t blame him for seeing other women. Maybe you guys should clear things out in that regard. Wait for him to bring it up. Until then you can do the same.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    June 6, 2019 at 11:02 am #201671

    sinpleman44 is correct.

    If you’re not in an “exclusive relationship” both of you should keep your options open!
    Just because you had a few dates and had sex doesn’t mean you’re in a “relationship”.

    Until you’ve had “the talk” and both agreed you want to be exclusive this is a “situationship”.
    A “situationship” is a an (undefined) association. No promises have been made to anyone.

    The mistake a lot of online daters make is (assuming) or behaving like they’re exclusive.
    When they find out the other person is still seeing other people they call it playing games or cheating.

    Each of us is entitled to have our own mate selection process/must haves list.
    If you were job hunting you’d send your resume to (multiple companies) until you received/accepted a job offer.
    The company would also continue to interview multiple candidates until they found someone who fit.
    Communication trumps assumption. If either of you thought the other was “the one” you should have said so.

    Lastly if you only have sex because YOU want to YOU should never feel used.

    Brewster
    Brewster
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    June 14, 2019 at 2:43 pm #202124

    Yeah I would be done with him. If he was interested in a LTR he would act way differently.

    karmacoma
    karmacoma
    Participant
    June 17, 2019 at 3:36 pm #202323

    more likely his ultimate goal was to have sex with you. Recently a friend of mine met someone online and they were also all over heels it seemed but after they finally landed in bed he became a totally different person like there was a switch or something. He was becoming more and more distant and finally got totally silent.

    MB313
    MB313
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    June 18, 2019 at 11:07 pm #202382

    Yea he might not have a clue so you probably need to wait or try to form some sort of connection where you can openly communicate it. Good luck!