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kerenParticipantJune 5, 2019 at 5:57 am #201639
It’s a little embarrassing though.. but i need an advice. So.. i met someone on a dating-site called Daterex com, he seemed to be a nice guy, we went on few dates and everything was nice, we started to get intimate and after few dates we had sex, which was very nice, but then few days after he started to act strange, like suddenly he became too busy to meet with me… Another friend of mine is also on this dating-site and i decided to talk to her about it, and we found out that this guy is basically seeing her also while dating me. so i’m wondering what i should do next? should i avoid it and let it go, or should i finish with him? looking for your advice 🙏
sinpleman44ParticipantJune 5, 2019 at 3:12 pm #201642
If you guys didn’t talk about being exclusive then you can’t blame him for seeing other women. Maybe you guys should clear things out in that regard. Wait for him to bring it up. Until then you can do the same.
dashingscorpioParticipantJune 6, 2019 at 11:02 am #201671
sinpleman44 is correct.
If you’re not in an “exclusive relationship” both of you should keep your options open!
Just because you had a few dates and had sex doesn’t mean you’re in a “relationship”.
Until you’ve had “the talk” and both agreed you want to be exclusive this is a “situationship”.
A “situationship” is a an (undefined) association. No promises have been made to anyone.
The mistake a lot of online daters make is (assuming) or behaving like they’re exclusive.
When they find out the other person is still seeing other people they call it playing games or cheating.
Each of us is entitled to have our own mate selection process/must haves list.
If you were job hunting you’d send your resume to (multiple companies) until you received/accepted a job offer.
The company would also continue to interview multiple candidates until they found someone who fit.
Communication trumps assumption. If either of you thought the other was “the one” you should have said so.
Lastly if you only have sex because YOU want to YOU should never feel used.
- This reply was modified 3 months, 1 week ago by dashingscorpio.
BrewsterParticipantJune 14, 2019 at 2:43 pm #202124
Yeah I would be done with him. If he was interested in a LTR he would act way differently.
karmacomaParticipantJune 17, 2019 at 3:36 pm #202323
more likely his ultimate goal was to have sex with you. Recently a friend of mine met someone online and they were also all over heels it seemed but after they finally landed in bed he became a totally different person like there was a switch or something. He was becoming more and more distant and finally got totally silent.
MB313ParticipantJune 18, 2019 at 11:07 pm #202382
Yea he might not have a clue so you probably need to wait or try to form some sort of connection where you can openly communicate it. Good luck!
beeParticipantJuly 20, 2019 at 10:16 pm #204061
Until you don’t have the exclusive talk with him, he can do whatever he wants. Talk to him see where his emotions are regarding your relationship.
charlesangelParticipantJuly 21, 2019 at 5:15 pm #204069
He must still be looking then.
SeriousAquariusParticipantJuly 21, 2019 at 11:28 pm #204080
Yes, if you have a few dates with a person and you are getting together throughout the week, they need to disable their account.
anon1734ParticipantJuly 22, 2019 at 5:17 pm #204168
What do you want from it? If you don’t mind him seeing other people and want to be free to do the same, then let it go. Otherwise, you need to address it by bringing it up or ending things.
aman0326ParticipantJuly 27, 2019 at 10:32 pm #204426
I would try talking to them. He might like you but you don’t know unless you ask.
amyyyyblackParticipantJuly 31, 2019 at 1:32 pm #204645
I think if he was interested he wouldn’t be too busy to meet up. When people want to do something, they find the time to do it. It’s as simple as that.
ShorteParticipantAugust 13, 2019 at 7:29 am #205308
Perhaps you have ceased to be interesting to him, because he found something more interesting, just do not guess, write and personally speak, then you will definitely understand. After all, on these dating sites everything is very complicated, try to understand that different sites are different people!
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