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[ellebelle]

August 7, 2019 at 7:50 pm #205054

The old instagram unfollow

I matched with this guy on okcupid and we really seemed to get along. He was away on a trip for 2.5 weeks when we were messaging, so we made plans to meet up when he got back into town. We texted every day and had in-depth conversations while getting to know one another. He was the one to make initial contact on the majority of the texts and I think I only texted him first on three or four of the days. I know it’s ideal to keep things digital for so long before meeting, but there wasn’t another option.

Anyways, he got back into town on Sunday and we made plans to meet up today. He then texts me yesterday and says that he is still hung up on his ex and isn’t ready to date. He doesn’t apologize at all, but just says that it isn’t fair to me to pretend. I definitely call BS on this excuse, but just send him a quick reply saying that I understand and thank him for his honesty. I know it’s not the truth because he’s still on okcupid and has been online since then.

[ellebelle]

August 7, 2019 at 7:51 pm #205055

Continued: We both still follow each other on instagram and he’s still viewing every single one of my stories, but hasn’t liked any posts since sending me the get lost text. Is it passive aggressive to unfollow him at this point? There’s definitely nothing there anymore and I want to move on.

[Brrr in Alaska]

August 10, 2019 at 6:44 pm #205178

Unfollow him? Put aside social media for a second and imagine there wasn’t any. Would you continue to follow him around town to see what he is doing with his life if there was no relationship? Isn’t “following” him on social media in essence the same thing? If you feel it isn’t then then you’ve lost the distinction between social media and real life. A common problem is this day and age. Ask yourself this. What’s the point in “following” him if you really want to move on? Wouldn’t it be easier if you didn’t?

[Lost_Pup]

August 13, 2019 at 12:10 pm #205315

I have a rule that I never share social media with someone I’m dating or potentially dating. Not because I’m hiding anything, but because it always causes drama at some point. I tell people that upfront, and for the most part, they understand because they have seen it happen too. I’ll show people if they want to see, but I won’t accept them as ‘friends’