Trying To Figure The Situation

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Trying To Figure The Situation

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    OMhurchu
    OMhurchu
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    July 21, 2018 at 3:07 am #180035
    Trying To Figure The Situation

    Ok so I’m going to give you the short/long version of my story.So I started messaging a girl on tinder whom I’m knew through friends. I started working in Dublin and was messaging away to her. Now with my job I was moving across to the UK but heh she was fun so I said I’d keep up the convo and keep messaging. I eventually got her number and everything went swimmingly, good text banter and interest.I do be back in Dublin every 1st or 2nd weekend.1st night we met we got on really well,done a few pubs and got a kiss to which she replied ‘I was a really good one’. I was back in 2 weeks and we met. Same thing went out, one of her friends was there. We done some pubs and the night club. We ended up going back to hers and I ended up in her bed. Everything went really well. 3rd date the next weekend. I brought her for a meal. Paid for it. Back to hers and she said I could not go up stairs.Me like an idiot why not, she said she wasnt like that etc. I said ok we chatted as it was a bit awkward.

    OMhurchu
    OMhurchu
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    July 21, 2018 at 3:18 am #180036

    I said I wouldn’t be back in Dub if I didnt like her. Told her some more personnel stuff,not like me.Left and all seemed good. I text her a few days later and she replied all was good. Now I had mentioned I’m back Friday 13th(I know) She said she should be around but has a hen the Saturday.She was mental with work for the two weeks. We chatted, she added me on snapchat. Anyways Anyways she did not reply to me a on the weekend before I’m back so Ieft it 4days. She replied really mental with work, really big message. Sorry she wont be able to meet. I said ok Im back next weekend.We might meet for a drink. She then added me on fb. that weekend.So no reply and I decide to whatsapp her something funny about her dogs and she replies straight away and we convo and then she stops.
    I’m back full time in 3 months. Do I leave it until then?
    Currently trying to read the situation and its really bugging me.
    – Is she not interested?
    – Is it because I’m across the water in the UK?
    -Something else?
    _

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    July 21, 2018 at 11:11 am #180039

    I believe she has clarity about the long distance and has decided not to invest too much of herself.
    For many people a long distance relationship isn’t something they would prefer nor seek out.
    As far as she’s concerned you guys are “friends”. She doesn’t want a long distance relationship.

    Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary. The goal is to be with the person you love.
    When there is no “light at the end of the tunnel” where someone is going to relocate couples drift apart.
    It’s the counting down of the months, weeks, and days until one is finally done with the inconvenience of a LDR that keeps it strong!

    Don’t be surprised if she’s dating someone who actually lives in her area. That’s what most people WANT.
    You may try staying in touch for now and when you’re actually back in 3 months make a final move to establish something.
    In the mean time don’t put your life on hold. You’re not “in a relationship” so date and have fun while you’re in the U.K.

    OMhurchu
    OMhurchu
    Participant
    July 23, 2018 at 8:50 am #180048

    Thanks dashing.

    When you say “You may try staying in touch for now and when you’re actually back in 3 months make a final move to establish something”.
    How and what do you mean stay in touch?
    In terms of a final move, any tips or ideas? Like a phone call?

    I just like having everything right.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    August 13, 2018 at 5:42 pm #181497

    Staying in touch just means reaching out to her every 2 or 3 weeks to say hello and see how things are going with her.
    This could be via instant messaging, text, email, or a phone call. Just have a general conversation about what you’ve been up to…etc

    Once you get back permanently you can let her know, ask her out, and see what happens from there.

    Best wishes!