Unsure of what I saw

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Unsure of what I saw

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    lindaklamut
    lindaklamut
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    May 1, 2020 at 5:51 pm #233258
    Unsure of what I saw

    Hello, I have a weird question. I am dating a guy and he has never done anything weird or inappropriate like this before. But, I have no idea of the male brain sometimes and am wondering if I did see what I saw. Red Flag or not. I thought I saw my BF check out a girls crotch while she was sitting on a quad, legs sort of apart. I honestly couldn’t believe he would do this, but I am so unsure. He had on dark sunglasses and seemed to move to get a better look, ever so stealthfully but man do guys do this? The girl in question is a big no no with us for past reasons and yes I am insecure over it. Sounds paranoid or do guys actually sneak peaks like this?

    Conflicted
    Conflicted
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    May 1, 2020 at 7:08 pm #233259

    Some guys do take sneak peaks like that I think lots of them do

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    May 3, 2020 at 1:17 pm #233291

    “..do guys actually sneak peaks like this?”
    Of course we do! Both men and (women) look at other people!

    So called “sneaking” is an attempt to show respect towards their partner.”
    Some also watch pornography, view nude/sexy images of women online, in magazines, and calendars.
    It doesn’t mean they don’t love their girlfriend or wife.

    Just because you have a nice car or home doesn’t mean you can’t admire other cars and homes.
    You should be more concerned if he was (blatantly checking other women out) in front of you as opposed to sneaking.

    As for: “The girl in question is a big no no with {us} for past reasons…” Is it more of a “no-no” for YOU as opposed to US?
    In other words who initiated the conversation or determined she was a “no-no”? You or him?
    Beauty or sex appeal is in the eye of the beholder. We don’t get to tell other people what is attractive.
    The only person you can control is yourself. Checking out/admiring someone else from a distance isn’t cheating!

    If you truly don’t trust your boyfriend, dump him!