Volunteer or go to a Birthday? Need help


Volunteer or go to a Birthday? Need help

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    June 1, 2019 at 4:20 am #201490
    Volunteer or go to a Birthday? Need help

    Need advice…

    My gf’s nieces’ bday was supposed to be tonight. I went and bought them gifts. I also offered to throw them a bbq tomorrow.
    Now, her sister is acting dumb, cancled the bday, and is sending them with their dad tomorrow.

    My gf was crying because she feels sad for her nieces…no bday.

    So she called their dad up and wanted to go over in the morning to his house.
    As I’m comforting my gf, she tells me that’s the plan for tomorrow. She didn’t ask me if I was free.

    And I’m not. I volunteered to help my friend out with his job. I’ll be teaching a class of students.

    I told my gf I couldn’t go because I had already made this plan a long time ago and gave my word on being there. I f I don’t show up or cancel, then his event gets messed up, his work is messed with, and there’s lots of kids with nothing to do.

    My gf said I was choosing that over being there for her family and that she always is there for my family.

    That made me mad. Thoughts? Do I cancel?


    June 1, 2019 at 12:56 pm #201496

    Sigh . . . you already made these plans. Your gf is being unrealistic.

    You’ve got a commitment, you’ve got to honor it.

    June 2, 2019 at 1:33 pm #201529

    Don’t let anyone “guilt trip” you into breaking your word to others.
    This could set a dangerous precedence if you cave in to such tactics.

    Your girlfriend is making this about (her) and not her niece.
    Odds are (the little girl) will be just as happy whether you are there or not.
    It’s the (big girl) who is having a hissy fit.

    It’s not as if her niece’s birthday is a “family emergency”.
    The world does not revolve any of us.

    Nobody gets everything they want. That’s life!

    June 17, 2019 at 8:18 am #202167

    Haha the big girl is having a fit