Want to contact my HS crush after 3 years. How would you feel

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Want to contact my HS crush after 3 years. How would you feel

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    daqdr01
    daqdr01
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    March 8, 2018 at 11:20 am #167044
    Want to contact my HS crush after 3 years. How would you feel

    So I had a huge crush on this girl in HS for a couple of years, and I didn’t do anything about it. I actually barely talked to her, since I was extremely shy about talking to people in general, and I had no idea what to do about the fact that I liked her. After going off to college, I’ve become much more comfortable around people and a cooler person overall (IMO). Whenever I go back home, I’m always interested to know what my classmates are up to right now, and since I had some common friends with this girl, I always hope I can hear about how she’s been when I talk to them.

    I recently found out that she has had to go through a lot of difficult health issues, and I felt really sad that I didn’t get a chance to know her better back then. After hearing about her troubles, my shyness and hesitation from earlier seemed really stupid, and I really want to reach out and connect with her (something I should have done back in HS).

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    daqdr01
    daqdr01
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    March 8, 2018 at 11:21 am #167046

    I wasn’t really a fan of social media and I had deleted my older FB account, but I’ve made a new one recently and have added a lot of HS friends. I was thinking about sending her a friend request, chatting with her, and eventually seeing whether she wanted to hang out. She knew I had a crush on her back in HS since she caught me staring at her a couple of times (I saw her looking at me too, sometimes) and because of my nervousness at the rare times I did talk to her. I remember chatting with her online sometimes, even late into the night one or two times, but that’s it. I don’t want to make her feel weird or creeped out by contacting her out of the blue, so I wanted to know how you would feel if a guy contacted you in these circumstances. I’m not really looking for a relationship or anything, just becoming friends and seeing where it goes from there. I still sometimes think about how things would have been different if I wasn’t an idiot back then.

    daqdr01
    daqdr01
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    March 8, 2018 at 3:55 pm #167047

    Thank you for taking the time to read through this wall of text, I would really appreciate your opinions on contacting her again.

    Thoth0
    Thoth0
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    March 8, 2018 at 10:42 pm #167077

    Im in sort of the same position, i feel you should ust go for it but keep the conversation simple.