Was I selfish and insecure!? Is this my fault!?!?


Was I selfish and insecure!? Is this my fault!?!?

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    November 26, 2018 at 8:49 pm #189881
    Was I selfish and insecure!? Is this my fault!?!?

    A guy I met told me that he just wanted to date me but we never put a title on our relationship. He got evicted& then had to move in with his parents who live 4 minutes from me. We hung out usually was a Max of 6 times a month due to schedules/effort. Whenever we would hang out I wouldn’t know until the day of or the day before if we would see each other but we always had a blast. He never wouldn’t text things like I miss you or good morning beautiful. There were days where we didn’t talk at all. I told him MULTIPLE times that I wanted him to text me& be more involved since I was only talking to him. Sometimes we didn’t hang out because he got too “lit” the night before and decided to sleep in. My request for involvement were ignored so after 5 months I told him we should be friends &then i put my profile back up. He saw my profile was up and called me insecure and accused me of talking to other people while we were “dating”. Idk if this is my fault. Am I wrong!? We Never had a title!

    January 3, 2019 at 11:05 am #191865

    Sounds like he was a loser to begin with.
    If you have not had a discussion about being “exclusive” you’re entitled to keep your options open.
    A guy living with his parents because he got evicted and gets high doesn’t sound like “Mr. Right” material.

    You should have blocked this guy from your phone and all social media.
    Oftentimes when people get dumped they can’t believe the other person wasn’t seeing someone else.
    No one wants to think it was (their actions) which led the other person to move on.

    Another tactic is to get you to engage into an argument.
    Fighting for them means there is still a connection because you still care enough to explain yourself.
    The opposite of love is not hate. It’s indifference.
    When you stop caring what someone thinks you’re truly ready to move on.

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde