We recently got back together, but…

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We recently got back together, but…

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    Whythough
    Whythough
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    March 2, 2020 at 12:47 pm #230696
    We recently got back together, but…

    About a month ago, my boyfriend of 2 years and I got into an argument about a girl at his job. Because of the argument and other things, we ended up breaking up. He talked to me constantly and we ended up agreeing that we could try again- Get into counseling, do more together and generally get better. He assured me nothing happened with this girl and that he loved me. So about a week ago, a friend tells me he saw them together when we were broken up. I confronted him about it and he said she needed a ride and that was all. Nothing happened. So yesterday I told him we needed to really talk about it before we could go any farther. After some probing, he admitted they saw a movie together. I asked if he slept with her. He said he didn’t- but he never could lie to me well. After denying it a few times, he knew that I knew and admitted it. Saying it was a rebound, but that they hadn’t talked since and that he never stopped loving me. My heart hurts. What do I do?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    March 3, 2020 at 11:18 am #230740

    “He assured me nothing happened with this girl and that he loved me..”

    “..he said she needed a ride and that was all. Nothing happened.”

    “..he admitted they saw a movie together.”

    “I asked if he slept with her. He said he didn’t…”

    “After denying it a few times, he knew that I knew and admitted it.”

    “Saying…it was a rebound, but that they hadn’t talked since.”

    Each of us is entitled to have our own boundaries and “deal breakers”.
    You said he never could lie to you well which means lying to you isn’t anything “new”.

    Personally for me dating a known liar for two years is two years too much!

    Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.
    The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want.

    Thankfully there are over 7 Billion other people on the planet.
    No one is “stuck” with anyone! Suffering is optional.

    If it were me I’d move on and observe the “no contact rule”.
    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    Shevat
    Shevat
    Participant
    March 6, 2020 at 3:28 pm #231035

    Wow, you really need some serious decision making because that man will hurt you, every time you have issues, he will always find some 1 else to be with or even have sex with, think about how wonderful you are and know that no man should take advantage of you.

    doggos4life
    doggos4life
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    March 10, 2020 at 8:24 am #231271

    I’m so sorry that happened to you! It definitely seems like there is some honesty lacking from his side, which of course is a red flag. He was given the chance to admit it multiple times, but chose not to. We can’t tell you what’s best to do in your case, but please don’t settle for anything less than you deserve.