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What are you waiting for? One mouse click could be all that stands between you and your next romance!October 8, 2016 at 8:28 pm #113532
Well, this will be embarrassing to write. I think I’m a pretty cool guy. I’m smart, I’m funny, I’m nice, I’m sarcastic, I’m busy pursuing my life dream, and girls don’t seem to like me. I’d like to think I’m not ugly, but damn, that’s the only thing I can think of at this point. I have lots of girls who are friends. Ones I’ve had crushes on who have turned into friends (I have a weird way of friendzoning a lot of my female friends). I know I shouldn’t feel broken down about not having a girlfriend, but it really sucks when every guy around you is getting one and you have no idea why you’re stuck in the “what the f*ck is that homeless old man looking at me for” area. I’m only 21 years old and it’s really bumming me out. Pretty hard core at times. It just makes me feel ugly and unwanted. So what is your opinion girls? How do I get from the “kill it with a f**king stick!” area to “man that guy is pretty cute” area?October 8, 2016 at 8:34 pm #113533
Also, if you could. I’d appreciate a somewhat realistic response. Nothing like “everyone finds love, which means one day you will too!”. Also, yeah, some of it probably has to do with being a virgin. But it’s more about wanting a relationship with someone I can really become emotionally involved with. Being alone and single has it’s perks, but there are times when everyone has someone else they’re seeing and your brain is telling you “hey man, I guess you are really just some loser”. I am also in college, so there’s that.
AnonymousInactiveOctober 8, 2016 at 9:16 pm #113537
Give it time. You are worrying too soon.October 10, 2016 at 9:17 am #113540
……..but, but…..I don’t like waiting………
In all seriousness, I told myself the same thing. It’s been five years since I had a GF. That may not be very long to some people on this site, but us waiting the best I can do. Because I guess letting time pass is pretty easy.October 10, 2016 at 9:18 am #113541
Can’t tell if my other message made it through. Anyway, I am young, this is true. However, telling someone to wait is kinda like telling them to pray for the best and hope it happens. Thoughtful, but kinda uneventful. Especially if it never works out. In which case I think I’ll just start dating a chimpanzee.
MereModestyParticipantOctober 12, 2016 at 1:56 am #113830
It’s been five years since I had a GF.Quote
Well hey, at least you had that. I’m 22, and I’ve never even had one GF, despite being a hopeless romantic since like age 9. But as for how you could try to resolve your problem… well, I’m certainly not the best person to ask (obviously), but my best advice I can give is to try initiating with women you find attractive, show interest but not too much, show (not say!!) you’re a fun guy, and ask them out on the dates. Do NOT try to befriend women and then hope that they see you romantically and/or just wait around hoping a cute girl will notice you. It won’t happen. It almost never does. The most important thing is to take ACTION. Be *proactive*, not reactive.
MereModestyParticipantOctober 12, 2016 at 2:03 am #113832
Oh, and some other things to keep in mind: try to find your sense of humor, act indifferent to the possibility of rejection, be persistent but not clingy and desperate and tease her when she tries to reject you (that also shows you don’t care that much about rejection), assume that the woman already likes you, don’t try to force anything and try to be natural as possible, try to avoid asking a girl out and instead arrange a date idea based on critical information you should have gotten from her in previous conversations and offer a specific time and day (actually, asking which of two separate times is even better because it subconsciously turns it from a “yes or no” question to a “this or that” question in a woman’s mind, AND it shows that you know how to take charge), try to avoid constantly complimenting her, and don’t be an open book and instead leave room for mystery about you in her mind.
Hope this helps.
February 23, 2017 at 12:52 am #127912
- This reply was modified 3 years, 3 months ago by MereModesty.
You know, you have the best response. I’m not going to lie, I’ve tried and been friendzoned and or rejected five times since I created this message. One of them just recently, one that I thought was really, really cool. It really feels like shit to have another person throw you away without a second thought. It seriously sucks. I’m slowly becoming bitter towards couples and I know it’s not healthy. It’s preventing me from school work and distracting me from having fun doing the regular things I found enjoyable. It’s causing a moderate depression to deepen even further. Now I’m just angry all the time, and I have little to no motivation. The gym has become worthless, my job has become worthless. It’s really hard to have accomplished a ton of things and find this to be the most difficult thing I’ve ever done, and continually failed to do. What’s worse that in the back of my mind I know a relationship isn’t all it’s lead up to be and that this attitude will amount to nothing.
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