What am i doing wrong?

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What am i doing wrong?

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    Cluelessguy
    Cluelessguy
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    August 22, 2018 at 1:02 am #182161
    What am i doing wrong?

    I met this girl online and we exchange a few messages in a good conversation I would say. Then she was absent for a day. I replied and it took her 3 days to reply back. I have to say she responded with a long message answering everything I asked and even told me it was great I had started a new company but that she wanted to let me know she was going out of town to a camp and wouldn’t have service but will message me when she was back. That was last Monday… she was offline the whole week and then I saw she was online on Saturday and she even looked at my profile so I thought she could be back but would let a few days to see of she messaged me. I don’t wanted to look needy. So I thought if I see her again online then I would know shes back and will message her. I saw her online today so I would say she is back and was thinking on sending a message tomorrow around noon. I’m I doing something wrong? I feel like she is putting some distance. Would a girl really message you when back?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    August 22, 2018 at 5:49 pm #182285

    First of all I hope you’re pursuing other women!
    Until you’ve had a talk about becoming “exclusive” with someone consider yourself (free)

    Anytime you meet someone online initially it means they’re keeping (their options) open.
    For all you know she went camping with another guy she met online.
    Odds are if you’re attracted to her so are several other men.

    “I feel like she is putting some distance.” – Trust your gut instinct!
    Clearly if you were a top priority or were seriously in the running it wouldn’t have taken her 3 days to respond to your earlier message.
    If she was truly “into you” She also would have notified you when she got back.

    In my opinion you have two options.

    1. Move on to pursuing other women and she contacts you then see where she’s coming from.

    2. Go ahead and message her but {ask her out on a date}. Based upon her response you’ll know if she’s interested.
    Make the place something very casual a restaurant/bar that serves appetizers and drinks

    SillyWoman
    SillyWoman
    Participant
    August 24, 2018 at 4:30 pm #182630

    DashingScorpio is right. Online dating means nothing these days. If she hasn’t messaged you like she said she would, I’m afraid I have to tell you she’s not that interested. If she can’t keep her word to message you, she’s not worth it.

    amb23
    amb23
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    August 24, 2018 at 6:47 pm #182636

    Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket

    dizzy
    dizzy
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    August 24, 2018 at 8:54 pm #182641

    It sounds like she’s interested in you but not enough to be too devoted or committed yet. It takes time, she has other people to chat to and other things to do. Keep at it. Doesn’t sound to me like you’re doing anything wrong- you just seem to want more from her than she’s ready to give yet.

    LauraCernal29
    LauraCernal29
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    September 5, 2018 at 8:05 pm #183502

    I don’t think you did something wrong.

    Luffyd01
    Luffyd01
    Participant
    September 7, 2018 at 5:59 am #183614

    You have to do what’s best for you. It means takig time to work on yourself and occupying your time. Sometimws being too available is not appealing for women and they tend to misuse someone’s care for convenience. Best of luck.

    haus
    haus
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    September 9, 2018 at 7:36 pm #183807

    I have had the same problem lots of times with this exact same issue. Assuming the messages are quite long it may just be her needing to actually find the time to sit down and type it out. Phones are not long message friendly. She may react positively to going on a date if you ask her out. Has worked for me in similar situations. Or she may not be particularly interested in you. Maybe you wrote a really catchy or interesting first message but afterwards she may have just thought you 2 weren’t similar enough etc… has happened to me too. Difficult to say what could e the case, but definitely don’t pin all hope on her…

    tyler
    tyler
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    September 9, 2018 at 9:35 pm #183812

    You haven’t done anything wrong but to reiterate what others have already said don’t put your eggs in one basket. There are so many cool people out there and online dating is only one way to do it.

    stephaniedcoll
    stephaniedcoll
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    September 12, 2018 at 12:27 am #184035
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    I think you are not doing any wrong.