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astacifParticipantApril 2, 2019 at 2:07 pm #198055
Met a woman a couple months ago, after we hung out for the first time she had to leave on a 1.5 week trip. When she got back, she messaged me, asked to hang out that following week. We met up for drinks and food, it was great again. When I dropped her back off at her place, we hugged, and then she kissed me goodbye. The kiss(multiple kisses) totally surprised me because it was our second time hanging out after not seeing each other for almost 3 weeks. Anyways, that was a Wednesday. The Monday immediately after, I texted her and asked if she was free at all that week. She wasn’t, she had a couple friends coming to visit for a few days- I ended up having family and friends in town. She said “we should definitely see other next week though”. I agreed and told her to have a great week. It is the next week, a day and a half has passed since her friends left town. Is it still on me to initiate this third date? Or should I keep waiting for her to text me. I don’t wanna come off as desperate
dashingscorpioParticipantApril 2, 2019 at 5:03 pm #198058
If it ain’t worth asking for it’s not worth having…
Wait another day and if you haven’t heard from say something along the lines of.
“Hi, just checking in to see if we’re still on for getting together this week?
If so, let me know what day works best for you. Hope all is well!”
In the event she backs out or does not respond I would move on.
The only exception would be if she countered with something else in the very near future.
Otherwise I would leave the ball in her court while I went out with other women.
A common mistake a lot of daters make is (acting like they’re in a committed relationship) without a commitment!
These days when someone tells you they’re having “friends” over (you shouldn’t assume) they are “platonic friends”.
Becoming emotionally invested too quickly can lead to heartache. Keep your options open at this point.
Dating other people keeps you from acting desperate because your social calendar remains active.
astacifParticipantApril 2, 2019 at 5:14 pm #198059
Great advice, thanks! I have past relationship trauma surrounding not being communicated with, and I often overthink the actions and words of people I date as a result of my past. I end up getting attached too quickly.
carla2019ParticipantJuly 24, 2019 at 4:00 am #204243
Yeah I’d drop her a text, just keep it simple.
She seems interested so just go with your instinct and don’t over think.
hummingbeeParticipantAugust 5, 2019 at 11:20 pm #204879
She seems into you I would send a text and check in. If she engages casual bring up getting together again.
KylieTeaParticipantSeptember 22, 2019 at 1:32 am #207349
I always say there’s no harm in just asking. Just say hey, I don’t mean to pester, but are we still on? If not I understand. It won’t hurt to try!
lyn1014ParticipantMarch 5, 2020 at 1:02 pm #230927
Yes, definitely initiate it and show her that you are still interested!
AnonymousInactiveJune 30, 2020 at 1:07 pm #235209
Keep it simple, send a text
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