What is going on?


What is going on?

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    October 7, 2018 at 8:33 am #186413
    What is going on?

    Hi I’m new here thanks in advance for all your help and comments. I met a guy on a dating site. It’s only been about 6 weeks and we have been on 6 dates. Every time we’re together we have a lot of fun and there’s definitely chemistry. On our third date he made the comment that he didn’t want to see other people and that he was removing his online dating profile and that he was so happy that he had met me. However he never did remove his dating profile. I know it’s early and we’ve only just begun dating but my problem is it’s just moving very slow and I don’t know where we stand I sometimes don’t hear from him for 3 or 4 days and if I text him he doesn’t respond. He does work a lot during the week but he’s off during the weekends. Which confuses me because we never spend time on the weekends he just gets distant on me. We typically meet on Wednesdays for dinner. I just feel like it’s very hot and cold and I don’t know what to make of it. Should I be expecting more?

    October 7, 2018 at 3:36 pm #186416

    You’re presently in what is called a “Situationship”. In other words an undefined relationship.
    At the 6 week mark very few couples become “exclusive” or make a “commitment” especially online daters.
    Odds are you are not the only woman he’s seeing. As you pointed out his profile is still active.

    “He does work a lot during the week but he’s off during the weekends.”
    “We typically meet on Wednesdays for dinner.”

    That should tell you something right there.
    From what you described he’s either married, in a relationship, or wants his weekends free to play the field.
    If a guy is truly “into you” he’s going to want to spend some quality {weekend time} with you.
    He’s only meeting you on “school nights” and he’s not in touch for 3-4 days at a time.
    Doesn’t exactly sound like a someone still in the infatuation/honeymoon phase.

    If you have to “figure out a guy” it means he’s not into you.
    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    See other guys or move on!