What Next?

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What Next?

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    Italiana86
    Italiana86
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    October 20, 2019 at 6:30 pm #223749
    What Next?

    I need some advice. I was talking to a guy on a dating app. We had a great rapport going and texted until 3AM a couple nights in a row. He asked me out and we made plans for the next week. The night before, he canceled. He was super kind about it and said that he had gone on another date that night and wanted to see her again. He said he hadn’t expected that date to go as it had, but he didn’t feel okay about going on our date when he planned to see her again. He emphasized that he was bummed because he thought we would have had a good time together. I told him I was bummed too, but I understood and appreciated his honesty. It’s been 4 weeks, and I’m still thinking about him a lot. Should I make any attempt to talk to him again so he knows I’m still interested? Or do I just wait and see if things fizzle with the other woman and hope he reaches out if they do?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    November 5, 2019 at 7:56 am #224665

    “Should I make any attempt to talk to him again so he knows I’m still interested?”
    “Or do I just wait and see if things fizzle with the other woman and hope he reaches out if they do?”

    The answer is NO to both questions. Move on!
    While it is commendable that he chose not to “ghost” you the fact remains {he chose someone else}.
    This isn’t uncommon after all anyone who has an active dating profile is essentially keeping their options open.

    If you were job hunting you wouldn’t send your resume to (one company) and wait to see if they hired you before sending it to others. You would also assume the company is interviewing other candidates as well.

    The mistake you made is YOU didn’t keep your options open by engaging with and dating other guys!
    Too often people connect with someone and start to behaving as if they are already in an exclusive relationship when they’re not When that person decides not to date them or simply “vanishes” they find it hard to move on.

    Life is too short for you to be sitting on the bench waiting for the phone to ring.