What would you do in this situation?

DATING ADVICE FORUM

What would you do in this situation?

    Author
    Comments
  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
    DatingAdvice.com
    November 11, 2018 at 1:08 am FORUM ANNOUNCEMENT

    Hey DatingAdvice.com forum readers! Just a quick heads up that a few dating sites are offering a FREE trial to DatingAdvice forum readers. Try it now and meet local singles in just a few minutes! Here are the sites:

    Site Who You'll Meet Today's Deal
    Match.com Casual dating for ages 18-65 Get FREE access
    Elite Singles Educated professionals 25 and older Get FREE access
    AFF.com Hookups, casual encounters Get FREE access

    What are you waiting for? One mouse click could be all that stands between you and your next romance!

    surjanto1
    surjanto1
    Participant
    June 25, 2018 at 11:50 pm #177922
    What would you do in this situation?

    Alright so I’ll try to describe everything as detailed as possible.
    I’ve known this girl, lets call her X, for about 10 months now. She is a friend of my sister’s and they both are in a dace group together. So she visits our home quite often, this has been going on for about 2 years. But we started to get to know each other a year and a half later. We exchanged numbers, started chatting. That went to going out, actually quite often. Then she started flirting, showing signs that she liked me (e.g touching, asking questions if I had a girlfriend, wearing my clothes (yeah, she loved sleeping over, but we didn’t sleep together). So shortly after I asked her if there’s anything going on between the two of us. Because her friends also started noticing that she had feelings for me and also my friends started pointing out the obvious. But she just went and said that she didn’t feel anything for me, that everything she did was normal for her (she’s 17 about to be 18 and I’m 18).

    surjanto1
    surjanto1
    Participant
    June 25, 2018 at 11:51 pm #177923

    So I got confused and wanted to end the conversation there, but then I asked if there’s was someone else (I actually did know, cuz her friends told me before). She said yes, she had someone in mind. (But from what i’ve been told by her friends, is that she already asked him for a relationship, but he declined her proposal. But he kept regular contact with her.) So, I just left the conversation there and she actually insisted on staying just friends. So I was like : “Why not?”
    Okay so fast forward to now, she kept showing interest, flirting, I even slept with her (not sexually, just literally sharing a bed,blanket,pillow). (Keep in mind ; she’s still talking to that one guy. He keeps ignoring her overtime she brings up relationship stuff. )We hung out quite a lot, talked a lot. But then I got tired of all the games and decided to ask her again what she was playing at.

    surjanto1
    surjanto1
    Participant
    June 26, 2018 at 9:28 am #177924

    This is where it gets weird ; she got angry, told me that I didn’t know her, that I think I know what she likes/wants & feels. She also stated that we were never really friends. And she also told me that I was never a choice of hers. So here’s my question to anyone reading this : WHAT ARE YOUR CONCLUSIONS/ADVICE?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    June 28, 2018 at 2:16 am #178189

    “You’re traveling through another dimension, a dimension not only of sight and sound but of mind. A journey into a wondrous land whose boundaries are that of imagination. That’s the signpost up ahead – your next stop, the {Friend Zone}!”

    Essentially you’re a “nice guy” or brother type she enjoys doing stuff with while she hopes the other guy will get jealous or want her. A lot of young girls go through a “bad boy” phase where their motto is:
    “We ignore those who adore us and adore those who ignore us.”

    You could stick such a woman in a room with five guys and have four of them drop to their knees extending their heart out towards her. While the 5th guy sits in a corner sipping on a cocktail acting as is she doesn’t exist.
    That will be the guy she wants to get to know!

    She sees him as a “challenge”, a “mystery” someone she’ll have to (earn) his attention and affections.

    Move on! You’re only 18! You shouldn’t be wasting time being with any girl who is not into (you).

    pubamoto
    pubamoto
    Participant
    June 28, 2018 at 12:39 pm #178256

    That is confusing. I would
    Be exhausted personally. Maybe she doesn’t really know what she wangs

    zazaz
    zazaz
    Participant
    June 29, 2018 at 11:29 am #178357

    Personally I think you’ve gone to direct. Try going a bit cold on her, and see how she reacts.

    ieele
    ieele
    Participant
    June 29, 2018 at 10:30 pm #178498

    shes prob a bit too stubborn to admit it