What's the deal? What should I do?


What's the deal? What should I do?

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    March 27, 2015 at 3:52 pm #76232
    What's the deal? What should I do?

    The guy I was seeing called it off, sort of a couple of weeks ago. He said to me “…I love hanging out with you, don’t get me wrong but I just don’t want to lead us on to something serious.. It’s just bad timing.. I gotta be a little selfish and focus on me if that’s makes sense”
    I replied “Thanks for letting me know. I like hanging out with you too and now I realize I need to be a little selfish and focus on me too…have a good weekend.” 8 days later he texts me and initiated a conversation… “Funny with friends talking about girls with pretty eyes and I thought about you” we had a short convo and said I was cute and “maybe I can see you soon..” I said maybe you can and ended the conversation.. I found out through my best friend from work that he was seeing this girl I worked with and he was begging for her back thee same night he texted me and said I have pretty eyes.. She isn’t into him and then he texted me I’m assuming after the fact..Should I say something when we hang out?

    March 30, 2015 at 12:24 am #76262

    I say, you should wait for him to come to you and change his tune if that’s what you want/need from him. If you are up for something casual, then fine, but if not you have wait until he shows more and more effort to be with you, he was the one who ended up in the first place

    March 31, 2015 at 1:33 pm #76367

    I hear mixed signals there… Sounds like you are plan B or a backup date when the one he wants says no. I would give yourself more respect and not see him. If he is really into you he needs to clearly show that.

    March 31, 2015 at 2:08 pm #76376

    Sounds like a plan B to me too! If you do want to see him, you should make him earn it.

    April 2, 2015 at 10:02 am #76501

    I agree with Anna ,he should prove himself.

    April 16, 2015 at 3:23 pm #77392

    Absolutely. He has the gall to backburnered you for her, you should take your right to call him out on it. She won’t be hurt by it, she’s not interested. The only hurting party currently is you. Take him down a notch.

    April 18, 2015 at 9:12 pm #77528

    If he doesn´t text in a week, do it yourself, and if he doesn´t answer just let it be

    April 21, 2015 at 7:18 am #77616

    Give him time.. Time will tell if he is really into u or not

    April 21, 2015 at 9:00 am #77639

    I’m in the same situation. I think giving it time is the best bet because most guys need their space to figure out their thoughts and emotions