Would a guy is interested keep responding to messages but not initiate contact?

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Would a guy is interested keep responding to messages but not initiate contact?

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    icecake89
    icecake89
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    September 24, 2018 at 3:55 am #185076
    Would a guy is interested keep responding to messages but not initiate contact?

    So basically I met a guy about a month ago, and I felt a connection. We now live a few hours apart, however we have been texting. The thing is i’m the one who iniatiates the conversations. Recently however he had been asking me questions when the convo died down. For instance, I told him i’m looking forward to the break we get a week off for from work, and he asked about my travel plans. He originally told me he was going to another city, but now he said he might go to another or the one I’m in! One problem is my friend said he may possibly be interested in his new neighbor, so i’m confused! He always responds even if it takes a few hours to a day. I haven’t talked to him in about 4 days, so should I wait for him to message me, or message him and see what his thoughts are for traveling? Does he seem interested at all?

    Shiraz
    Shiraz
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    September 24, 2018 at 10:02 am #185090

    He might be interested…he also might be interested in his neighbor.Lay low and see what he does.A few days before you leave for your trip then you let him where you are headed and ask him to let you know if he will be in the area so yiu could meet up for coffee or maybe see / do something interesting together.Good luck and just focus on enjoying your trip regardless!

    icecake89
    icecake89
    Participant
    September 25, 2018 at 5:16 am #185218

    Thanks for the advice! Do you think I should just wait and see if he messages me first or message him a few days before our vacation? Also, don’t worry I will definitely enjoy my time off no matter what! Haha

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    September 26, 2018 at 12:34 am #185375

    “The thing is i’m the one who iniatiates the conversations.”

    The person who initiates a conversation is the one who is thinking about the other person.
    Responding to someone’s text is a courtesy. Don’t take solace in the fact that he is not rude.
    If this guy were “into you” he would not only initiate some text conversations but he’d also be calling you.

    “You are traveling through another dimension, a dimension not only of sight and sound but of mind.
    A journey into a wondrous land of imagination. That’s the signpost up ahead. Next stop, the Friend Zone!”

    Seriously you should move on.
    Anytime you have to “figure out” a guy it usually means he’s not “into you”.
    Surly there must be other guys who don’t live a few hours away for you date.

    “If someone wants you in their life they will put you there. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.”
    Best wishes!

    icecake89
    icecake89
    Participant
    September 26, 2018 at 8:37 am #185378

    There may be other guys that are interested, but i’m not interested in them. Just like you say this guy isn’t interested in me. Unfortunately, when I really start to develop feelings for someone it’s hard for me to just simply move on, but trust me if I were up to me I would have moved on already

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    September 27, 2018 at 1:39 am #185471

    Knowing someone for (only a month) is a very short time to be developing feelings especially long distance.
    A mistake a lot of people make is they don’t keep their options open early on. They emotionally invest in others too quickly.

    No one seeking a job would email (one resume to one company) and wait to see if they get hired before sending more resumes.
    You should date multiple people until you know someone well and there has been talk about becoming “exclusive”.
    Essentially you ended your search without having an offer made. No one should be committed to anyone in just 4 weeks!
    That’s not enough time to truly get to know anyone.

    In order to “move on” one must “let go”. The reason it’s so hard to move on is because you (really don’t want to) let go.
    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    Suffering is optional. You’ve only known him for (one month).
    In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: NEXT!

    Best wishes!

    icecake89
    icecake89
    Participant
    September 27, 2018 at 7:25 am #185474

    Well thank you for the advice, I appreciate it. However, I think i’m just going to let the idea of dating anyone go. I don’t feel like I can force myself to openly date when i’m not up to it, it’d just be a miserable time, but I totally get what you’re trying to say.

    Sherbear
    Sherbear
    Participant
    September 29, 2018 at 8:01 pm #185769

    It seems like you should forget this guy and move on. If he’s not the one to initiate text, that right there would be a problem for me. Good luck!

    bree12
    bree12
    Participant
    October 1, 2018 at 2:28 pm #185833

    I’d be wary if you’re initiating, sometimes people will respond as they enjoy the attention and nothing else. I’d probably leave it and see if he reaches out to you

    MiaSara
    MiaSara
    Participant
    October 1, 2018 at 4:52 pm #185843
    Reply To: Would a guy is interested keep responding to messages but not initiate contact?

    Agree- leave this alone for now and see if he initiates communication with you.

    blueyesinfla
    blueyesinfla
    Participant
    October 6, 2018 at 6:46 pm #186409
    Reply To: Would a guy is interested keep responding to messages but not initiate contact?

    Listen to your own gut instincts. I agree with the other responses.

    Wilx
    Wilx
    Participant
    October 8, 2018 at 9:22 am #186431
    Reply To: Would a guy is interested keep responding to messages but not initiate contact?

    Stop texting and meet him IRL. This will make things more clear.