Year in a marriage

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Year in a marriage

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    Joannie33
    Joannie33
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    November 4, 2018 at 11:18 am #188702
    Year in a marriage

    I`ve been married for year and our relationship changed, especially in our sex life.
    When i see good looking guy, dream about him, i know i want sex – its not like i dont want it at all.
    But when my husband touches me or wants sex, im pushing him away. I cant imagine having sex with him anymore.
    I imagine all the kissing, touching but when it comes to him – its like im cold woman.
    And we were like bunnies at first!
    Obviously he`s getting stressed about it too – three month without sex or kissing.
    Ive tried: show no emotion, bite your tongue and do it. Its humiliating and since i dont get excited - its painful.
    I`m worried: what to do, how to fix it, will i ever want my husband again?
    What`s wrong with me?
    I`m not getting any younger and spending my life in this reality, is challenging.
    I want love, kisses, touches, and im with someone i cant imagine doing it with.
    If a good looking guy would sweep me off the feat, i think i might even cheat. That`s not what i want tho.

    choatic_c
    choatic_c
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    November 4, 2018 at 5:19 pm #188709

    Could be early bumps but you two have to communicate and work together through these issues.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    November 5, 2018 at 6:37 pm #188776

    “I`ve been married for year and our relationship changed,”
    Did the (relationship) change? or Did YOU change?

    According to statistics (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings in the U.S.
    Maybe you were never “in love’ with your husband and you simply got married for the (wrong) reasons.
    “I`m not getting any younger….” – Is this possibly the reason why you said (yes) to the marriage to begin with?

    You probably have “buyer’s remorse” and the thought of {being with him} until death do you part” sickens you.
    Unless there is some form of abuse or mistreatment going on it makes little sense to throw in the towel after one year.

    “The grass is always greener on the side you water.” – Neil Barringham

    Wreckatech
    Wreckatech
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    November 8, 2018 at 10:23 am #188990

    Could you try to change things up in the bedroom? Maybe that might excite you?

    Noname657
    Noname657
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    November 17, 2018 at 8:03 am #189597

    If you’re already day dreaming about other men maybe you should consider marriage counseling and figure out what exactly it is you want. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. What makes you think these other guys will be any better or different than your husband.

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    November 20, 2018 at 5:57 am #189671

    im sorry your going through this. marriage counseling is not always the answer. you need to bring excitement back into the bedroom or any room you want. i have been married less than a month and the sex just keeps getting hotter everyday. let your mind go where it probably hasnt been before. he is my heart my soulmate i would trust him with my life. but hes bi curious and im by god lets do it. grass isnt greener on the other side. plant some roses where you are. if interested. let me know.. not trying to offend. just saving heartache

    Inadream91
    Inadream91
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    November 21, 2018 at 5:05 am #189674

    As a person who is married right now too.I get it the spark is gone. Even after a year, it feels like he gave up. But still see that there is a light at the end of t the tunnel. Don’t let this dread you, I would chat with him if anything and ask him what’s going on. Tell him how you feel.