How To Date A Bad Girl

Lesbian Dating

How to Date a Bad Girl

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

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Lillian Castro

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Dating a “bad girl” — one of those women who do not see the sense of being well behaved — can be both exciting and unnerving.

So what do you do when you’re looking for a party girl vs. the girl next door? What if you’d rather be with the edgy Melissa “Missy” Giove instead of the philanthropic Ellen DeGeneres?

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“Bad girls can be appealing. Not only do they live on the edge, they have an attitude that shows their bad-assery. You feel like they can take care of you, even though their attitude might show that they may only take care of themselves. You feel like you are doing something bad and getting away with it.”

The lesbian lifestyle site continues, “You feel used at the end of the day, but for some reason, continue to go back, wait for their calls, check out all mediums (clubs, bars, online sites) to see if they have been on and why they haven’t contacted you yet. But why? How do these women get to run the show, and that be OK? What makes being with them appealing?”

Dating a bad girl can be a blast.

But how do you do it successfully without getting burned? You can try willpower first, but it won’t work if leather-wearing, shot-taking party girls are your kryptonite.

So tread carefully and with complete control. If you maintain the upper hand with a bad girl, she has less rope to hang you with.

Keep her close physically, but far away emotionally. Many times a bad girl is the way she is because she doesn’t feel loved or has been screwed over one too many times.

So try to break through her tough exterior and get her to open up to you before you fall madly in love with her.

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