How Do You Ask Women Out on a Date?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

How do you ask women out on a date?

-Lisa

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

It’s always hard to muster the courage to ask a romantic interest out on a date, no matter your gender or your sexual orientation. My suggestion is to keep the invitation and event very informal at the beginning while you gauge their interest level.

Too much formal romantic courting — like dinner in a candle-lit restaurant — can put a lot of pressure on your friendship and can set you up for a big disappointment. Instead, suggest going together to a group activity, such as a community service event or a concert or festival.

This will allow for lots of distraction to funnel your nervousness into and you’ll get a chance to see if you two really get along. As far as “how” to ask. Do it in person or on the phone. It shows you are brave and confident, and it allows you to read more into her answer than you would via text.


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