Gay Americans 3x More Likely to Have a Threesome

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This is an exclusive study conducted by, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population.

Having more than one sex partner at a time can bring certain advantages and disadvantages, but just how often does this actually happen?

In our latest study, we asked a wide cross-section of Americans if they’ve ever doubled-up under the sheets and here’s what we found.

At 51 percent, gay men and lesbian women led all other groups, including being three times more likely than straight men and women to participate in a threesome.’s gay dating expert, Brian Rzepczynski, said a three-way can add stimulation and spice to one’s sex life, but prior forethought and planning is recommended to ensure it is the right decision.

“By assessing the motives and pros and cons for a threesome, communicating with all parties involved about sexual limits, boundaries and safer sex expectations and engaging in conscious, balanced play, you’ll be exercising a proactive approach to ensuring this is the right option for you and the others involved,” he said.

While 16 percent of heterosexual respondents said they’ve tried it, most turned out to be men. Only 11 percent of women said they’ve taken two lovers at once compared to 26 percent of men.

“Gay Americans are three times more likely than

straight Americans to participate in a threesome.”

In terms of marital status, singles and divorcees had a 38 percent higher likelihood of being in a three-way than married individuals.

Middle-income earners and Westerners also were among the most likely demographics to have done so.

Twenty-four percent of those earning between $50,000 and $74,999 annually admitted they’ve had a sexual encounter with more than one person at a time, but only 14 percent of those earning $125,000 or more a year have.

Men and women living in states like Nevada trumped those living in states like South Carolina by more than one-third.

On the flip side, older Americans and Asians were among the least likely to take part in a ménage à trois.

Respondents aged 25 to 34 were almost three times more likely than respondents aged 65 and older to participate in this type of sexual activity.

Less than one in 10 Asian-Americans said a threesome has been part of their sexual repertoire, while almost one in four African-Americans said so.

The study surveyed 1,080 respondents over the course of three weeks, balancing responses by age, gender, income, race, sexuality and other factors in order to accurately represent the U.S. population. The study has a margin of error of +/- 2.8%.

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