Lied to Get Out of Sex? 59% of Americans Are More Honest Than You

C. Price

Written by: C. Price

C. Price

C. Price is part of's content team. She writes advice articles, how-to guides, and studies — all relating to dating, relationships, love, sex, and more.

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Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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This is an exclusive study conducted by, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population.

How often do Americans lie to their partners in order to avoid having sex? From being tired to having a headache, we can come up with a number of reasons to get out of doing something we don’t want to do.

In the latest study, we wanted to understand the breakdown a bit better and find out who is the least likely to lie about this topic.

Overall, almost 6 in 10 Americans said they have never lied to a partner just so they didn’t have to engage in sex.

In regards to gender, men were 38 percent more likely than women to have never fibbed (69 percent versus 50 percent, respectively).

Older Americans and Asian-Americans also were among the most likely demographics to refrain from lying about their sexual mood.

Sixty-nine percent of men and women aged 65 and older answered no to the question “Have you ever lied to get out of sex?” versus 51 percent of men and women aged 35 to 44.

In terms of race, 68 percent of Asians claim they have never made up an excuse compared to 51 percent of African-Americans.

“Six in 10 Americans have never lied 

just so they didn’t have to engage in sex.”

The results also show marital status plays a large role, as singles were 15 percent more likely than divorcees to not lie when it comes time to have sex.’s women’s dating expert, Rachel Dack, said she’s often seen this sort of behavior play out in real life, especially among women.

“In my psychotherapy and coaching practice, I often hear women admitting they use fibs or excuses to get out of sex with their partner, especially during rough patches in the relationship or marriage,” she said. “The study illustrates the clear biological and psychological differences between men and women regarding sex. It also is worth noting that single individuals were less likely to report lying to get out of sex compared to individuals who were married or divorced.”

When looking at the least likely groups to have never lied, homosexuals, middle to upper-middle wage earners and people living in the Northeast and Midwest took the lead.

Slightly more than one in two gay men and lesbian women said they have not lied to get out of sex, while slightly less than three in five of their straight counterparts have never done so.

Respondents earning between $50,000 and $74,999 a year had a 16 percent lower likelihood of never lying than respondents earning less than $25,000 annually.

Taking region into consideration, 57 percent of those living in states like New York and Michigan have not lied to a sexual partner as opposed to 65 percent of those living in the South.

The study surveyed 1,080 respondents over the course of three weeks, balancing responses by age, gender, income, race, sexuality and other factors in order to accurately represent the U.S. population. The study has a margin of error of +/- 2.8%.

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