This is an exclusive study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population.
The saying goes that you should fake it ’til you make it, but what about faking it while you’re making it (love, that is)?
This phenomenon, though not new, has gotten some press time lately. Some people are pro faking orgasms because it makes the other person feel better, and it provides a smooth ending. Others say it’s a bad call because the other person is misled and you aren’t as satisfied.
But what do the majority of Americans do?
In our latest study, we questioned more than 1,000 Americans to learn the truth – are they actually getting off or just saying they do?
The results certainly caught our attention.
We learned almost one out of two divorcees has faked an orgasm, with 48 percent saying they’d put on a show for the big “O.”
What’s even more intriguing about these findings is only 30 percent of singles say they’ve faked it, making divorcees 60 percent more likely to lie about climax.
Why could this be? We asked an expert for her input.
“One out of two divorcees has faked an orgasm, with
48 percent saying they’d put on a show for the big ‘O.’”
According to Associate Professor of Human Sexuality at the University of Guelph Robin Milhausen, the reason divorcees are more likely to fake an orgasm than singles could be related to age. This seems much more feasible than the idea that divorcees are just having less satisfying sex.
“People who are older would have had more opportunities to have sex and to fake orgasm,” she said. “I don’t think it’s that divorced people are having less satisfying sex.”
Milhausen also said maybe the important information here isn’t who fakes but why they fake.
“Are they doing it to make their partner feel good about their sexual skills?” she asked. “Or are they doing it to get sex over with more quickly with a partner they aren’t that into or during a sexual behavior they aren’t really enjoying?”
She cited research from Léa Séguin, a sexuality researcher, who suggests motivations for faking orgasm vary, and they aren’t necessarily all bad, including trying to improve a partner’s self-esteem or wanting to appear sexually “healthy” or normal.
Even if your partner is among the 39 percent of Americans who have faked it, they might have a good reason for doing so.
The study surveyed 1,080 respondents over the course of three weeks, balancing responses by age, gender, income, race, sexuality and other factors in order to accurately represent the U.S. population. The study has a margin of error of +/- 2.8%.