The New Way to Date
|David Wygant • 12/12/12|
Think about your last relationship. Think about how wonderful the woman was when she was still new. You remember the first time you met her, how wonderful it was to see her. She presented the perfect version of herself.
It’s almost like when you go buy a car.
There’s nothing like a brand new car: the smell of the leather, the way the steering wheel feels in your hands, the way it feels when you drive it. Then after you’ve driven the car for a few months, things don’t feel the same way.
So the next time you buy a car, you’re a little more cautious.
You also realize buying new is not exactly what it’s cut out to be, so you buy used.
You look at a car and of course the seller tells you everything is perfect with the car, even though it’s six years old. So then you do what every consumer does.
You run the Carfax.
The Carfax tells you all about the vehicle’s history report, every little thing that’s ever gone wrong with it, whether it’s been in an accident or not, and if it’s been in the repair shop a few times.
So imagine the next time you meet a woman, what if you could go home and run a Peoplefax on her?
And I know a lot of you will Google somebody, but Google doesn’t really tell the whole story.
Imagine if you were able to run a Peoplefax and you were able to see her entire relationship history with a written report from every person she was with.
Wouldn’t that be so cool? You can find out if this person you think is incredible right now will remain incredible.
Imagine what the reports would say:
“This woman was amazing the first three months. She did everything. I thought I met my dream woman. Then, after three months, the cracks started showing. She started not doing the things she said she would. She turned into a soap opera-watching lazy woman who never nurtured the relationship.”
“It’s time to start being who you really are.”
The superhero version.
You see, the problem with dating is everybody presents the superhero version of themselves when they first start dating.
We’re always on our best behavior the first three months. Everything is always perfect; our behavior is so great.
And then the cracks start to show, and the real person shows up.
Look, we’re all flawed. You know that. I know that.
The beauty of life is being flawed; the beauty of life is being imperfect.
But it’s time to stop lying, and it’s time to start being who you really are.
But more importantly, if you don’t want to head down the road to another bad relationship, it’s time you started learning from all your relationships, and maybe listening to all the reports on Peoplefax.
Because just like an old car, you could be restored and brought back from the factory new all over again.
But it takes work, it takes determination, and it also takes a willingness to change your bad behaviors.