How to Get a Gay Guy to Like You

September 17, 2012
How to Get a Gay Guy to Like You

When you meet a new guy you find really attractive, it’s natural to find yourself simultaneously excited and terrified. Meeting an attractive guy can make you feel like you’re on top of the world, but it can also make you feel really insecure, especially if you aren’t sure if that guy finds you attractive as well.

To help fight off these negative emotions, you need to take a few steps to make this guy like you.

Don’t be creepy.

The impulse to Google every new attractive guy you meet is totally normal and shouldn’t be fought. Searching a guy’s name via Google can give you a good idea of who he is and what he’s been up to over the years.

Once you learn this information, you need to keep it to yourself! Asking a guy about a whole lot of stuff that he hasn’t told you about is a great way to seem like a creepy stalker, especially if the information is of a highly personal nature.

For example, if you Google a guy, find his Facebook profile and see he has three siblings who you then individually Google, it would be really creepy to ask him how his sister’s new baby is doing when you go on a first date with him.


“You never know when you’re going to

meet someone who drives you crazy.”

Give him space.

Interest is flattering but there’s nothing appealing about sending a guy you just met a hundred text messages a day asking him how he’s doing, what he’s up to, whether he’s thinking about you and all sorts of other ridiculous nonsense.

If you want an attractive guy to like you, then you need to play it a little cool, even if you’re bursting on the inside. Feel free to text him, but keep it casual and keep it relatively infrequent.

If you get into a text conversation or an online chat that is mutually engaging, then feel free to sit back and enjoy getting to know this guy. But if you keep texting this new guy and he doesn’t reply, then you need to back off.

As a general rule, you should text, email, call and message a guy about as often as he replies to you. It’s normal for one guy to be a little more aggressive about establishing communication than the other, but make sure you keep the pace pretty much even and that you respect his boundaries.

Desperation is NOT attractive.

Be awesome.

The number one way to get a guy to like you is to be awesome. Stay healthy, stay in shape and look good at all times.

Be up to exciting things in your life. Pursue your passions. Take your work as seriously as it deserves to be taken. Have friends. Have good relationships with your exes. Be a great guy who lives the sort of positive, interesting, engaging life that another guy would be happy to become a part of.

If you aren’t awesome, then it’s too late to become awesome to attract that guy you just met. This is why it’s important to be a catch at all times.

You never know when you’re going to meet someone who drives you crazy. Be prepared at all times and you will automatically attract the sort of incredible guys you want to like you without having to put in too much work.

Sam has been writing about dating and relationships for more than three years now. He holds a bachelor's degree from Bucknell University, has self-published a few of his own books and is currently working on mastering the double right turn in his salsa dancing classes. Connect with him on Google+.

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2 Responses

    So many guys never follow these tips…

    Ha ha … “Be awesome” … Great tip!

    Serious though, taking care of yourself and loving who you are is a key step to having someone love you. Nice article Sam :)

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