3 Christmas Gifts For A New Date

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3 Christmas Gifts for a New Date

Jonathan Welford

Written by: Jonathan Welford

Jonathan Welford

Jonathan Welford is a dating and relationship coach, author of three relationship coaching books and regular GayDatingExpert.com columnist. He heads up a coaching and therapy practice specializing in dating and relationships. He lives in the UK with his husband and their English bulldog named Lola.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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OK, you’ve met a guy who’s lovely and charming. You’re spending a lot of time together, but it’s only been a few weeks (or even a few months). You’re a long way from getting down on bended knee with a ring or bringing up the subject of moving in together.

Christmas is almost upon us and you are uncertain of what to get him for a gift — something nice he’ll appreciate — but you’re not sure what he’s giving you.

It’s very difficult not to get swept away with enthusiasm and spend large amounts of money trying to get that very perfect gift. We all hope to be overwhelmed with amazed gratitude and gushing thanks after our thoughtful and lovely wrapped present is opened.

So do you think you would get that from any of the following:

1. A box set of toiletries.

The classic “shops are about to shut and I haven’t a clue” present.

2. A range of scented candles (or candlesticks).

The dreary present that will be wrapped up again and given to someone else (or maybe even you) next year.

3. An amusing calendar.

Cute puppies and kittens or a muscular man with an artfully placed towel protecting his modesty may seem like a fun idea — stop right there — it’s not!


“Giving an experience as

a present is marvelous.”

The list of lame gifts can go on and on. Usually we get what we want by buying it for ourselves.

A gift should have an “I didn’t know I wanted this, but I love it” quality to be memorable. I can count on one hand the gifts that have made a lasting impression on me.

Do you have to remortgage your house to get the most extravagant gift imaginable? Do you cruise down to the car dealership to purchase a sexy little sports car and wrap a big red bow around it?

The answer is, of course not. Although, if you want to splash the cash, remember some of be best extravagant gifts are often the ones that are shared, romantic and thoughtful.

You don’t have to spend a huge amount on a gift. Spending time together is priceless, so buying a gift you can share is ideal.

Of course getting something to unwrap is great, but giving an experience as a present is marvelous.

So what do I mean?

Here are the top three gift ideas which can further develop a strong foundation to your relationship.

1. Arrange a long weekend away somewhere fun.

Pick somewhere you can enjoy each other’s company and have quality time together.

2. Book a meal out at a decent restaurant.

Make it somewhere special and romantic.

3. Arrange to do something you can share (and enjoy).

Try a cocktail class or wine tasting session.

With gifts like these, you can tease your partner by associating the experience with something they can unwrap.

For a travel gift, you could attach the travel plans to a toy plane. Give a bottle of champagne to go with plans for a nice meal out, or surprise your date with a cocktail shaker or something related to the class you booked.

These gifts are wonderful memory makers, with the added benefit you’ll enjoy the experiences as well, and now you both have an event to look forward to.

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