Are You A Cheater Heres How To Forgive Yourself

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Are You a Cheater? Here’s How to Forgive Yourself

Robert Rodriguez

Written by: Robert Rodriguez

Robert Rodriguez

I am a dating and self-actualization coach based in Austin, Texas. I have trained with some of the best in the seduction industry. My areas of expertise include dating, online dating, body language, meeting in bars, text game and inner game. You can send me an email at

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Have you ever wondered how someone truly forgives themselves after cheating?

It’s an interesting question that requires a look into honesty, self-acceptance and desire.

Here’s what you can do to forgive yourself:

1. Realize your desires were OK.

What was wrong was not disclosing it to your partner.

If you decided to pursue someone else, there is nothing wrong with that. The problem comes when your current partner is unaware it is happening.

You may be led to believe wanting someone else is wrong. However, it is completely normal. You should make sure to tell yourself who you are and what you want is good but that you need to work on honesty and disclosure.

2. Accept your desires.

And know you are heading toward a more compatible partner. Though you hit a road bump, you are still on your way to the partner you really desire.

You were searching for someone else for a reason. That reason is to find what you are more compatible with and what you really want. Accept that part as a good thing. You are on your way to finding your better match.

3. Learn to go for what you want.

Do this while being more careful with commitments

Learn from your experience with cheating and become more brave in going for what you want.

Whenever you feel ready to move on, don’t let fear get in the way. Be upfront with your partner and move on. Let them go.

Honor your commitment with them and end it with them before moving on to someone else. This makes you a more attractive person because you are able to make big decisions. Have faith you will end up with what you desire.

“Women would rather

hear the full truth.”

4. Understand fear can be overcome by honesty.

When you are honest and end the relationship before moving on, you are creating a better situation for yourself.

Many times guys will hold on to the relationship and try to see girls on the side because they think their girlfriend will not get mad at them.

They also think things will be OK if they just don’t mention what they are doing.

In reality, the longer you wait to tell your partner you are ready to move on, the worse the situation will be when she finds out.

If you want someone else, go for it and cut ties with your current partner. She will thank you for saving her time. Your new love interest will also thank you for being more available.

5. Explain it to the person you hurt.

Be 100 percent honest. This is the big one.

Don’t hold anything back in regards to how you feel, what you did and why you did it. Women would rather hear the full truth than a version you think will please them.

Don’t try to sugar-coat things because it will eventually make you look like you are trying to hide something. Tell it how it is. This will allow you to move forward.

If you follow this list, it will help you take big steps forward in forgiving yourself.

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