How To Bag A Cougar Step 3

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How to Bag a Cougar: Step 3

Moxie Kline

Written by: Moxie Kline

Moxie Kline

Moxie Kline is just a lover. She has spent more than three decades exploring what it means to be a woman and to love and be loved by men. She writes about her adventures and discoveries at You can reach her at @MoxieKline or She wants to hear from you.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

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If you haven’t read my first two articles about how to bag a cougar, you can check them out. Now let’s move on to the third and final step!

3. Moving in for the kill

So you have succeeded in luring the mighty cougar into an e-dialogue with you. What now? Hopefully you want to bring the connection into real life, face to face.

If your intention is just to keep things virtual, moving it perhaps to another platform, Skype, whatsapp, kik, wechat, viber, Snapchat or what have you, this is probably not going to work.

Keep in mind we didn’t grow up with cell phones or email. The cougar may not have even heard of these tools, but what’s more, she tends to prefer in-person communication. Get her out on a date!

The invitation:

This is the easiest part in the whole process, boys, but it will take a little courage on your part. Notice the similarity of these words: cougar and courage. Think about it.

Despite our seniority (don’t use that word with us!), taking initiative is still a quality associated with masculinity. You want her to see you as a man.

When the time is right, just make a simple invitation. Remember: classy, personal, real.

  • I’d like to take you out.
  • Would you have a drink with me?
  • There is a park near my place that I love. Would you take a walk with me?

Don’t sweat it. Don’t freak out. Just make the invitation. She will accept or she won’t. If she doesn’t say yes immediately, try again. You will know when the door is closed completely.

And whatever you do, follow through on the invitation. If you drop the ball, you will probably not be granted a second chance.

The date:

Here are some words to keep in mind as you plan and execute your first date with a cougar: adventure, enthusiasm, discovery, fun.

Part of what makes meeting you truly exciting is your vital and youthful energy. You might sweep her off her feet if you can bring some playfulness and spontaneity to her life.

Some tips for a great first date with a cougar:

  • Take the reins.

Plan something, suggest a venue, scheme up some fun activity. A little effort goes a long way.

  • Be sensitive.

Remember she isn’t an adolescent, so paintball with your buddies or a six-pack on a park bench may not be her top choice for a first date. A third date, perhaps, but not the first.

This is feminism’s worst invention. If there is no natural opportunity for kissing and groping, it is not a date.

  • Leave room for spontaneity.

Even if you meet at a pub, consider what fun and spontaneous thing might follow that venue. Be more creative than “her living room sofa.”

Once you meet her, the only thing to do is be yourself. Remember she will see through a ruse, so if you are bashful, be bashful. If you are brash, be brash.

As long as you remember to keep it classy, you won’t mess up whatever natural chemistry you have with this fine creature.

“Get to know her before

you know how it will end.”

The closer:

Would it be fair to say this section is the one you have been waiting for? Oh, I hope so.

You are wondering perhaps how to take your relationship to the next level? Once you have made first contact with the majestic cougar, what is next?

Like all undomesticated animals, the cougar can indeed be unpredictable and wild.

She might pounce on you within the first 10 minutes. She may never make a single movement toward the bedroom. If that is where you hope to end up, you need to be prepared to take the lead. This will take some confidence and courage on your part, but you can do it.

Some tips:

  • Spontaneity is key.

In all likelihood, she will not have made up her mind about sexual activity until after you have met and possibly not until well into the date. Stay with the moment and allow it to unfold spontaneously. Trust your ability to read the situation and go with the flow.

  • Make a move.

Do you have your signature move? A caress of the hair? A direct kiss? Make it and do it with confidence. If you dally, she will see it coming, wise and experienced as she is. Now is the time for confident action.

  • That said, never make demands.

No doesn’t always mean no forever, but if your first few attempts don’t work and things don’t progress bedroom-ward, do not attempt to negotiate. This will completely ruin the moment.

One last pitfall worth mentioning:

Timing is everything.

The biggest misstep you can make is to bring up sex too soon. The cougar is very likely a sexually liberated creature, but that doesn’t mean she is willing to view sex as a transaction.

No one likes to feel like she is being used for sex, so you have to be willing to have a date that ends without sex, to take no for an answer, to wait and see.

Take the risk to get to know her before you know how it will end. Allow sex to happen spontaneously.

This will make it much more likely that you will get what you want bedroom-wise. This is the secret the most experienced and confident seducers have figured out.

Happy hunting, boys!!! The cougars are waiting for you.

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