How To Make A Woman Appreciate You

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How to Make a Woman Appreciate You

Justin Stenstrom

Written by: Justin Stenstrom

Justin Stenstrom

Justin Stenstrom is a dating coach, author and speaker. He is the founder of and the author of the book "Giving Shy Guys Game." He teaches men how to improve their dating lives by working on their confidence and self-esteem. He believes in having a natural and honest approach with women at all times. Justin coaches men online through his website and also in person throughout different social situations.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Sometimes a man who’s been with a woman for a while wants to have a little deference from his spouse or significant other.

At times, men feel unappreciated or even unwanted. Some of us may even feel like the late Rodney Dangerfield when he clamored about getting “no respect!”

Other men who are just meeting women and getting to know them want a similar thing, and they want to know why it seems like their woman doesn’t appreciate him or his time. These guys, too, hunger for the appreciation of the women they seek to date.

So how can we fix this? How can we make our women display their love and affection toward us and remind us they really do care about us? Well, it’s pretty simple actually.

There are four things we can do right away to make a woman appreciate us more.

1. Don’t be at her beck and call

Perhaps the biggest turn-off for women is a guy who is acquiescent at the drop of a dime.

This guy puts everything aside whenever the woman asks for him, thinking this will please the woman. In actuality (and one of the great paradoxes in life), this totally pushes the woman away and makes her think less of the man.

What you have to do is keep good and strong boundaries with yourself. You don’t have to be stubborn or hardheaded, but you must be firm and confident in yourself when it comes to compromising or answering unruly requests.

She will respect you infinitely more this way!

2. Be nice … but the right way!

Women love nice guys

. It’s a fact! Women love guys who have great values and great personalities and who treat them with respect and dignity.

The truth is it’s pretty easy to be nice. You just have to be a decent human being!

Some guys get caught up in the whole pickup artist approach, over-think things and put into practice some pretty awful ideas about the way women should be treated. Let me just break the news to these guys: It doesn’t work!

What does work is being affectionate and caring toward women. Women love when you hold their hands, when you touch them gently and hold them in your arms. They love being kissed with passion. They love when you look in their eyes and tell them they’re beautiful. They love all of this! So do it!

Just remember to be nice and not needy. If you’ve forgotten about having strong boundaries, please re-read example number one!

3. Be completely genuine

Finding people who are 100 percent true to themselves in today’s world is extremely difficult. Too often people put up fronts and hold back things, like acting congruent with who they really are.

They think by pretending to be perfect all of the time, the person they are looking to date will like them more and think they are perfect. This eventually backfires, as nobody is perfect, and the facade ultimately crumbles.

What’s left is a guy and a girl who really don’t know each other and who find out much later on they probably shouldn’t have lasted so long.

Instead, your approach should be to be yourself all of the time. By this, I mean be your true and best self. Don’t be afraid to reveal desires you may not think she likes. Don’t be afraid to say things she may not want to hear. Don’t be afraid to show her all of your imperfections and vulnerabilities.

Another great paradox in life is people have more respect and affection for those who are most honest and open with them, even if they make themselves seem vulnerable and weak by doing so.

4. Make her laugh

Humor is one of the most attractive qualities a man can possess. Being able to make a woman laugh is so powerful in having her appreciate her time with you.

All women, and all men for that matter, want to have fun in life. We all prioritize things in our busy lives and only want to make room for things and people we enjoy.

When a woman thinks about you, you want her to think of spending time with you as being a fun time. You want to make sure she appreciates your precious time and that she makes room in her busy schedule to share her time with you.

The best way to do this is to be fun, flirty and goofy when you two are together. The best ways to make her laugh are to playfully tease her about different things, to be sarcastic at times, to grossly exaggerate when telling stories and to make fun of yourself and other people.

The part about yourself is important because you want to show her you are not afraid of making yourself look bad and that you’re not just a jerk who makes fun of other people.

These things all make for comedy gold. You don’t have to be Chris Rock or Chris Farley either. Just having a simple, fun and playful approach will be more than enough.

When she thinks of you, she should think of only fun, happy and exciting thoughts. Women appreciate men who elicit these feelings in them. After all , who wouldn’t?

Just be that man who brings out the best in these women. If you do, you will be rewarded with great appreciation!

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